So Hurt and Resentful. Can't Get Over Hurtful Comment from my Husband

Wow.. He told you that during the early stages of dating? So what kind of guys have you turned away? The ones that knock your front tooth out?

I hate to think MD’s post is real and she’d be with a man that treated her that way.

Your childhood didn’t make him say those things to you did it? What did the couple’s therapist say when you saw him/her?

MD, this isn’t just about your hurt.Your hurt, is your gut trying to tell you something.

This initial thread was about two egos and conflicting arrogance. This isn’t the case with you, there may have been something that happened to you in your past that keeps you in your current situation.

Therapy is recommended.

Also, you have choices. You choose to stay with this individual, acknowledge that you are making the choice to stay and ACCEPT the consequences of your choice. You can also choose to have the courage to leave.

Your relationship started with a weak foundation, not good for a couple. Imagine a house being built on loose mud.

That can lead to bigger problems.

HE needs to deal with his own issues.

Learn to love yourself and make YOU a priority!

Good luck.

The couples therapist works on keeping you two together and may not necessarily make any sided recommendations.

Individual therapy will help unravel the things you may or may not know about yourself. In couples therapy, there are the two of you, you may not always tell the therapist everything in fear of what the other person may do or think.

Try the individual therapy and again, good luck!

Hi Amber,

Somewhat bothered by the many unhelpful comments that you have received. If you are holding onto one comment for this long, I think you may be experiencing post traumatic stress or some other mental illness. If he had a habit of saying hurtful things, I would feel differently, but what you are describing is a single incident that is not uncharacteristic of your husband.

Depression and post traumatic stress can force us to hold onto past hurts that we would have let go of already if we could. It’s likely not a matter of “letting go” or you would have done that already. I would look into holistic healing, including therapy, diet, and nutrition. Copper toxicity causes a plethora of mental issues.

Paleo diet had aided in relieving me from these long-term (year or more) ruminations. Instead of holding on to a comment for years, I can let it go in months or weeks. It’s not perfect, but it had provided me some relief.

I’m sure you don’t read this thread anymore, but I left this comment just incase. Also, for any others experiencing similar issues.

Be well and at peace.

Sounds to me that u no longer want to be with ur husband and are using this excuse to leave him , u keep mentioning the ex, it seems to me there is something still going on there u still have a thing with ur ex and wish u could explore that but feel terribly guilty for hurting ur husband hence using his comment as a get out card. Stop beating around the bush and admit what is bothering u.

Husband of 34 years said I am nothing but a hole to put his dick in

Anna, I am so sorry! What a horrible thing to say. Your HB is a mean miserable prick. pardon me, but this is where women need to learn to fight back. No it is not classy but let them have it, so next time he’d think twice before opening his foul mouth and hurting you this way. I wish you had told him some things about his “dick”.