Somewhat confused…

I reread what I wrote, I think I’m accepting more than I should…
I’ve been single for a while and especially the last year was really hard on me, Covid and all…it would be a blessing to be in a relationship.
But a good relationship, I can’t just tag along for the sake of being with someone.
Not giving in with sex keeps me detached, and even though I would be sad, I’ll recover easily if things don’t work out.
My main concern is that he just got out of a relationship and still wounded from the break up but also I really think he’s a narcissist, and not just throwing out there.
He’s really talking about himself and if I ask questions he’ll talk about it some more, family background, ex relationships, anything.
He won’t ask me many questions, at all!
And even if I say something about myself he won’t ask questions to find out more…
I just like him and feel like myself around him, which probably doesn’t mean a thing.

walk away

You are squarely in the middle of “rebound territory.” Red flags aren’t just waving but there’s a big NEON SIGN screaming “Danger, do not proceed.” Seriously, guys like him should come with warning labels.

You need to get out the loneliness rut as its not serving you well. Its good you are carefully listening to what he says but you MUST believe all the NEGATIVES. He’s carrying around a 10 ton bag of luggage and dumping it on you instead of owning and fixing his own crap.

Stop being his counselor/crutch. He needs to stop using women to fill his endless loneliness void and learn how to be alone, and on his own for a good amount of time (2 – 3 years), and uses a professional therapist to unload his crap on. He should not date again until he’s fully healed, shred his 10 ton baggage, and is fully ready to be honest with not only himself but women too. That’s what you should tell him and he needs to hear.

After you tell him that, don’t walk, run!

he sounds very confused. and he comes across as a petulant child. i would have run away if a man had told me to put in more efforts and that he is fed up of making all efforts. push you to initiate. all this wld have made me wary. not sure why you kept seeing him. anyways you know now wht you must do. gud riddance. and a time waster

In case youre still confused i like to point out a few things. You know him roughly 2 months, so thats pretty short to slap labels on someone. For example you say he is kind and generous, but im 100% none of you reader view him as kind and generous. So thats probably something he did in the early love bombing phase and before he started to tell you how great he is. Then he tells you he doesnt want a relationship with you. Thats really the last stop. If you play along after that you will become a hook up because he already gave you the disclaimer. He even shows you with not wanting to hold hands. Why you want to hold hands with him is strange. I guess you didnt hear him. Then you say he is so respectful towards sex yet he tells you (a woman he doesnt want a relationship with) his love language is physical while holding hands was a no no. So he is not respectful, he is tring to get in your pants. But this is really on you. Suppose you want a long term relationship and youre firm and know what you want and not guillable you would have said goodbye already, in a nice. Ok thanks for being honest with me, i want other things. Bye. The end.
Because you keep eating up his weird views and trying to make sense of them, even a glimpse of him wanting you, makes this all complicated for you. With nothing to show for. Stay away from weirdo’s and if it wasnt clear at first remove yourself from weirdo’s once it becomes clear

You are all very accurate, and you all hit the nail on the head about him!
And, I see it too…but still sad and disappointed it wasn’t meant to be…