Staying cool during his Vegas trip

Hi Melody,
This is my suggestion, don’t contact him during the trip. Let him have his fun with the boys and allow yourself to enjoy your vacation as well. You will have to trust that he will be faithful to you if you two are in an exclusive relationship. He’s putting that same trust into you. If you’re worried about reconnecting when you guys get back, set up a date for when you are both back.

My boyfriend went on a boys’ trip about a month into our relationship. I left town to visit some old high school friends that weekend to keep me busy and my mind off of things. We both agreed that he would come over that Sunday night so we could see each other before the week hits. That’s now our go-to plan for busy weekends now. If you have enough going on during the weekend, you won’t be thinking about what he’s doing because you are having enough fun on your own.

Set your expectations now to not hear from him much during the trip. If you don’t have an expectation, you will be much less disappointed when you hear less. Let him have fun with his friends and enjoy your quiet time spent with your family. Let him initiate, wish him a fun time and to stay safe but that is it – hands off! Imagine if you were on a girls trip and someone was blowing up your phone throughout the day – you wouldn’t be able to focus on having fun and being present with your friends and would feel like they didn’t trust you or allow you to do your own thing – that wouldn’t be a fun thing to deal with.

I highly doubt he will hookup with girls in Vegas, and if he does, you aren’t exclusive, so unfortunately, there isn’t much you can do about it. However, “what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas”, so if this did happen (which again, I really really doubt given his actions and behavior towards you) I do not think he would stay in touch with the person.

Try to enjoy your time with your family – I know I would be so thankful for a family trip right now! Be in the moment with them and know that he will get in touch when you are both back in town.

In terms of the date comment, I think he may have been joking around a bit. Try not to take it too seriously and let him bring up exclusivity when he’s ready – I know it is so hard to be patient, but try to enjoy each date as it comes. It sounds like you two have a good thing going so don’t worry!

I was once dating a guy for 7 weeks when I had a Vegas trip planned with my friends (childhood friends, both male and female).

He told me to have fun, told me of a few cool places we should visit etc. He never contacted me while I was there. When I got back, he did call to see how it went and never expressed a moment of insecurity.

I appreciated that so much! Our relationship grew immensely when I got home! Be like my guy. Your guy will appreciate it.

Thank you for the feedback ladies. I feel like I know in my heart of hearts that he’s not going to do anything so I need to focus on that.

As far as the label stuff, I don’t want to be the one to bring it up. I’m pretty sure at some point he will refer to me as his girlfriend and that will be it. He did tell me one very drunken night about 3 weeks ago that he doesn’t know when he should start calling me his girlfriend. Honestly I panicked in the moment (it was too soon IMO) and told him, “when it feels right”. I don’t know if he even remembers saying it or my response. I’m not really pushing for the title. He hasn’t given me any reason to think he’s seeing others (hell, I would be impressed considering the time we talk and see each other, if he had time for someone else). He’s been upfront about his intentions (ei. dating one person and working towards a relationship).

I think the advice on setting up my expectation not to hear from him during his trip is my best choice. I’d never blow up his phone, vacation or not. My question was more, should I send one text asking how it’s going. But I won’t. I do want him to enjoy his trip, I know he’s looking forward to it.