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jlucas91
Hey,
I’m 29 years old and married to my 27 year old wife for 3 years now. Two weeks. A few days ago she went all across the country to visit and stay at her parents for some time. On the first day of April we had something like a meetup with friends and we drank a lot because the day after she would leave. On that evening our friends wanted to play us an aprils fool. With the help of my brother, they got our phones and changed the numbers we have of each other to theirs. They copied our profile pictures, forwarded our messages to each other and made it look like nothing has changed. Sometimes, they added a message to cause confusion. The next day they wanted to clear everything out again but they didn’t. In the evening my wife sent a picture of her in underwear in front of a big mirror at her parents house and it said something like “I miss you”. I wrote her a few really lovely and spicy messages as well and after a few minutes she wrote, that she would go to sleep. The thing was, that she actually didn’t go to sleep but my friends told that to me. Actually, my friends and my brother were sitting together and kept texting her. By impersonating me, they tried to trick her into sending more pictures. Since she had nothing to do and since she thought it was me, she did the whole evening what they told her to do. The next day all three met again and did the same thing, while I barely got any message from her. On the third day I decided to call her and did that. Since my phone didn’t have any battery I used my work phone, which had the correct number still. We talked on the phone and didn’t even realize what was going on until the end of the talk, when I told her she could text me a little bit more, since she has nothing to do all day. After some confusing moments we realized that someone was manipulating our conversation. I wouldn’t believe it at first but then she told me that she has sent me like a hundred pictures and videos in the last 2 days and the only picture that reached me was the underwear one. She was absolutely hysteric about it and told me everything she did. On the first evening they took what she sent, but on the second evening they talked her into a lot of degrading stuff. Since we both didn’t know who it was we did reset our phones. They next day I wanted to call one of my friends but I didn’t have any numbers on the phone so I went to my brother. He wasn’t in his room but his phone was, so I picked it up and went to the chat he had with my friend to call him. I could see the messages he received and guess what it was: everything my wife told me about. At least everything from the evening before and it broke my heart. She is really beautiful, moderating news on a little Channel on TV and not fearing cameras, but she usually isn’t too risky when it’s on sending spicy pictures. They were totally pushing her into all of that while impersonating me. Since my brother hadn’t replied or seen the messages yet I called my wife and she went crazy. She told me she doesn’t want to see anyone of them again and she wants to leave the country. I haven’t yet confronted my friends and after a few hours I sneaked into my brothers room to check his phone again. What he replied basically is proof that he took part in this. I am full of anger and hate and I can’t believe what they did to us. I knew they were always having an eye on my wife, but that is way too much and it destroys our emotional life. Does anyone have similar experiences or has any sort of advice on how I should react to all of that?
I’m thankful for any help. Excuse my mistakes in writing, I’m no native.
RavenCan you blame her?!
Your friends & family SUCK & should be discommunicated!!
JoAt the very least they have no further place in your life and if I were her I would be considering going to the police. They obtained compromising pictures of her by deception. That is certainly a crime where I live and it carries a prison sentence. Where are you from?
Paige1) File criminal charges against each and every one of them.
1a) “It was only an April Fools’ Day joke” is not a legal defense.
1b) What they did does NOT fall under the category of “April Fools’ Day jokes.”2) File a civil lawsuit against each and every one of them.
2a) “It was only an April Fools’ Day joke” is not a legal defense.
2b) What they did does NOT fall under the category of “April Fools’ Day jokes.”3) Show your parents what they did. Let them know what a heartless, soulless b*stard their son is (no offense to anyone whose parents didn’t happen to be married when he/she was born.)
4) Confront each and every one them with the illegality of their actions and with the lack of any humanity or morality they have in what passes for their souls.
5) Both you and your should wife file restraining orders against each and every one of them.
6) Never see any of them again. That includes your brother.
7) Save all the evidence you can get your hands on – not just for upcoming court actions, but to be able to take to her employers and prove what happened in case one of them puts the photos and videos online. (Unfortunately, this has probably already happened, as anyone with this appalling lack of humanity wouldn’t hesitate to post them, but in this case, hope for the best and prepare for the worst.)
With cowardly, depraved beings like this, you will most likely get phone calls from them as they try to minimize the severity of their actions. Record and save these. Don’t forgive them. Don’t forget what they did.
I’m so sorry this happened to your wife. It will not be easy to get justice, but she will be striking a blow to keep them from doing this to another woman who might not have a supportive spouse like she does.
My heart goes out to both of you.
– Paige
kayeI understand that English is not your native language but your story has so many holes in it I find it hard to believe. 1) how would the first picture have gone to you at all if the numbers had already been changed by them in both your phones? You wouldn’t have gotten one picture and then none of the rest. You would have gotten none of it or all of it 2) your wife didn’t try to call you or text you to let you know she arrived safe in another country? Why didn’t you call your wife for 3 days especially if you were getting no messages from her? 3) you had an entire phone conversation during which she didn’t mention the fact you asked her to do a lot of degrading stuff the night before? Do you often ask her to send degrading things to you often? 4) you say she sent a hundred pictures and videos over 2 days and at no time during this did their responses back to her make her think it wasn’t you? Are you telling me your friends and brother spent 2 entire days together sending her messages? And at no point did it ever make her wonder what was going on with you or why you were asking all this of her? Not to mention she had time to take all these pictures and videos while staying with her parents?
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