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Victoria
Hello,
Not sure if I posted this under right category but hope to hear some advices and get much needed help.
We work at the same place only in different departments.
We tease each other, mostly work related jokes and his face light up then and he always laugh at my sometimes lame jokes. On days that I don’t say anything to him (beside hello and such) he keep distance and when I’m friendly and bubbly he is chatty with me. It is like he is mirroring my behavior.
I don’t know much about him. I think he is single because he always come alone to company parties. Don’t know his age (could be 45 or 55) and most importantly don’t know if he like me.
He did once suggested (more mumbled in the air) that we should get coffee, I agreed to it and after that he barely spoke to me for whole week.
He is either not interested or he is shy or not sure if I like him or just doesn’t want to get involved with someone from work. Or all that.Kathryb
This post sounds soooooo familiar!
Victoria
Why does sound familiar? Do you have similar experience?
Liz Lemon
Why not just ask him in a friendly way, “so when are we getting that coffee?”. He’ll either step up and arrange a time, or won’t.
If he’s so painfully shy that he can’t manage taking you out for coffee, then he’s not a good prospect for dating. Especially at his age! A man in his 40s should be mature enough to be able to take a coworker for a friendly coffee. It’s just coffee! People have coffee with coworkers all the time. It’s a casual way of getting to know each other a bit.
If he doesn’t take you up on the coffee, then leave him alone.
tammy
i agree with Liz
Kathryn
Sorry! I could swear this has been posted several times. But maybe I’m wrong!
Victoria
I agree too but truth to be told, I’m chicken too. In a way I understand him (in case he like me but he is just shy/scared). Trying to find a not so obvious way to hint about coffee/drink but some guys need things to be drawn to them to understand so hint might not work.
And yes we are both mature adults and shouldn’t have problem with coffee but to me fact that we work together is biggest barrier to make any moves.Victoria
@Kathryn…I’m sure there are other people with similar problem that posted here so that why my post sound familiar :)
Tammy
Well thn u wait for him to ask. Either u ask or he asks. If both dont than thats that. Forget him and move on.
Raven
Do not date people you work with…
Victoria
as what Raven said: Do not date people you work with…..I should repeat this every day at work and eventually will stop like that guy :)
M
Yep, I know lots of people meet their partners at work, but way way more have bad and ugly endings.
And then you’ve still got to see the person at work. Every. Single. Day.
Super-awkward and problematic for all kinds of reasons.
There are a million men out there, they’re way better to engage with. If you keep your work zone free from the messiness that often come with romantic relationships at one point or another, you will always have confidence it’s a place you can show up as your best – clean, clear, focused and committed to doing a great job and looking after your economic survival and career.
I’ve seen too many people mix work and pleasure and have both suffer irrevocably. (Myself included! Ah, if only I could go back in time and do it over, I’d be far far richer by now!)
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