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Giluanna
How do I step back to get a man to step up SUCESSFULLY? As in how do I make him see I am stepping back but not make him think I have lost ALL interest?
What has happened is we’ve had a few great dates and he still texts every day and calls frequently but it has been 10 days and he hasn’t asked me out again. I am getting tired of the texts but not being asked out again. I don’t see the point in continuing to text if there isn’t going to be another date. He made the comment last night and I replied that “It would be better if you saw me in person. A girl is about to give up on ya!”
He read the message but never addressed it and instead changed the subject. He had told me ealier in the week we should hang out again but didn’t set plans. I encouraged him by saying I’d love to, let me know when your schedule is free. He never said another word about it.
So should I just take longer to reply to texts and keep my responses shorter?
jenni smith
i would stop replying completely. see if it makes him step up and ask you out, i’m thinking if you don’t respond to a few texts he might get worried and ask u out for a date. if not, then you got rid of a serious time waster. if yes, then you see him again. either way, you win!
although, i read somewhere (i think on this site) that we should base our attraction on a guy’s behavior, not anything else (looks, job, chemistry, etc). based on that, i wouldn’t be very attracted to this guy . . .
Gemini615
10 days is quite a while to go without initiating another date. I would not dismiss this fact because I think it is intentional, especially because he avoided your comment about seeing him. I think you should back WAY off, do not initiate any contact at all, do not ask to see him, politely but selectively reply to his texts if you feel you want to, and get busy dating others and doing other things. Don’t waste your time with him, he may be losing interest, which is normal and okay after a few dates. This is what the dating process is about, so take it with a grain of salt and don’t get your feelings hurt if you don’t see him anymore.
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