Taking a two week break

I hope it turns out the way you want. But have to say that I wouldn’t have allowed a man to dictate such terms.. he would be the one worried about me not showing up. Not the other way around.

Good luck with everything! You did a great job not contacting him. Now prepare yourself emotionally for whatever the outcome. After making you wait like this, do not accept anything less than full commitment. He has had his time to think, if he can’t commit to you now, he doesn’t deserve you.

Hi Sofia,
I hope things went well yesterday and that the reason you haven’t updated is because you guys spent the night together having a wonderful time. My heart goes out to you.

This is a like a cliffhanger finale and then the tv show gets cancelled lol. Just kidding. I hope youre ok and all went well

Come now Sofia, can’t wait any longer???
#Crossing fingers for you girl

I have to admit, unfortunately I have a feeling things didn’t go well, which makes me sad because I genuinely wanted things to go well for Sofia. I hope I’m wrong. Sofia, I hope you’re ok and staying strong, and that you’ll reach out for support if you need it.

Yeah, I assuming things went in her favor, and she is not even thinking of this forum anymore!!

I think its a bit selfish to not update, there are lots of people who invested time and energy to reply, lots of people gave support, and the OP came back always to respond

So, I think she should have updated, just:

Girls, it went well, thanks! I will be back to tell

or

Girls, it was horrible, I am upset, I will update later

or
Girls, it was confusing, I am still perplexed, I will update later

Because lots of other people read the topics here on the forum and they can learn from it, so the updates are really appreciated

I will be shocked if it turned out as the OP hoped, which is why I’ve stayed quiet. I’m not a pessimist. But I listen closely and pay attention, and I’m realistic.

If after all this time the guy is only giving lip service about taking the next logical step in the relationship, and needs to take a break to figure out what he wants…that is a very bad sign.

I’ve had a bad feeling since the OP’s first post. It’s always great to hear when a story works out, but I’ll be floored if this works out in her favor. I’d never want to have to drag a guy forward in a relationship. If you aren’t sure, I’m surely out.

I would love to be be proved wrong on this. Time will tell.

I agree Phillygirl. The signs were not good from the start. But she had to give it a chance anyway, or she might’ve always wondered “what if”…

I understand your perspective and his. It’s not on the man to approach progressing things to moving in, it’s something you both have to be ready for and mutually want. He just isn’t ready yet and I don’t think taking a two week break is going to change that, because if he was ready he would agree.

The last time I was in a situation where someone wanted me to move in and I did not want to and no amount of time was going to change that. I was okay with seeing him, spending time, but he was not someone that I trusted having a future with and that’s okay. I hope your situation works out in the best way for you.

I am with those who think things did not go well.

Sofia provide an update to everyone, you owe it to the forum girl. LOL