Text him when he is sick

I find this thread really interesting because it just reminded me of my absolute worst online dating experience! The guy did all the right things up front, brought a jacket in case I got cold sitting outside at a very nice restaurant, remembered I had adopted a kitten from a shelter a few days before and bought me a card with a kitten on the front that looked just like mine and the card was adorable! He picked the restaurant based on something i had said when we first started talking. Ordered a bottle of my favorite kind of wine because he paid attention. He seemed so caring and genuine (the whole benefit of the doubt). But by the end of the date he had gotten drunk, berated a waitress, was rude to a toddler, had groped me and made inappropriate cmoments while I was on the phone with my daughter!!! Then he called and texted all hours of the night leaving messages apologizing for his behavior after I left!! I never returned his calls or saw him again. It was my worst dating experience ever and it taught me to never give someone the benefit of the doubt until they’ve earned it. Like I said earlier, you should sit back and be observing this guy not trying to make him like you because of something he said about wanting a caring girlfriend. He needs to prove to you he’s worth caring about! For all we know this guy could be married and found out his wife isn’t going out of town with the kids this weekend so he’s already concocted a plan to get out of your date. Or he shows up and shows you a huge spider bite. It’s not about being jaded or cynical it’s about not buying everything someone is trying to sell you!!

Laura, you are inexperienced which is why your receiving opinions from those who have been where you are and learned a lot of hard lessons by being so trusting of complete strangers.

He is A STRANGER; someone you’ve NEVER MET and need to mindful of this fact. He is one of thousands of guys online many whom are married, addicts, have issues, on the rebound, trolling for easy sex…just to name a few of many!

he could be an alcoholic, been to prison for rape, a cheater, a compulsive liar or a really great guy but you don’t know which one he may or may not be as you haven’t spent any time with him to determine this All we are trying to do is to warn you that not everyone you talk to or meet is who they say they are. Again its HIS JOB to plan and keep the date, if he does take it from there, if he doesn’t then you learned a lesson that he’s just one of the many who bail out of dates and wasting women’s time.

I honestly don’t believe your ready to date, too weak and susceptible to poor behaviors of men that’s going to take a toll on your self-esteem. I suggest you take a break until you don’t give a flying flip if a man keeps or cancels a date and not so concerned with a text because you’ve got enough going on in your life to even care.

Lane this is what I am talking about exaggerated. I don’t say I know him or I am worried about the date or the text! I only wanted to know the opinion if it’s acceptable to text a man when he is sick. Or not. Because I followed so much advice don’t text the man first, let him come to you etc. But he is sick, he was in hospital (yes I believe him) I only wanted to wish him well. But ok I didn’t. Believe me I am ready to date and I am doing fine, I have met some men but they didn’t interest me and nothing more happened. I don’t rely that he will be my boyfriend but yes I am interested in a date with him.