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Sandra
I met this guy at work and we’ve been texting a lot over the past 3 years. I thought he was interested in me and kept holding on hope but he never asked me out so I would on and off decide to stop texting him to get over him but he would initiate conversation and the whole cycle would start again. recently we bumped into each other again at work again and we’ve been texting daily for the past 3 months. We’ve finally made plans to have dinner. But I don’t know how much to get my hopes up as even though we have lots in common that we talk about and we talk about quite deep and personal things, and he compliments me about how I dress and asks how my day went etc, I can’t tell whether he likes me or not. Should I treat this dinner as a date or just dinner between friends? Is he interested in me??
Elvira
Ask him “is this a date”? Talking for 3 years you should be able to know or have some inclination on how he feels about you. If a guy talks to you like a friend he is a friend! And after 3 years you shouldn’t be afraid to ask questions.
Was he in a relationship those 3 years? What were you texting about personally/deep for 3 years that you would have no idea on how he felt? Was he talking about other women that is the 1st indicator that he sees you strictly as a friend.
Be direct and not afraid to ask questions. Just be ready that the answer may not be what you want then you can decide how to proceed i.e. friends or nothing at all.mama
I would definitely NOT ask him if this was a date. That adds way too much pressure for the 2 of you. I think he’s probably interested and wants to see how this goes.
I would probably go to the dinner thinking it might be a date and then you will tell if it is by his demeanor when you see him. But maybe try not to have any expectations, just observe. If you are still confused after your meeting up, then you could probably touch on the topic of whether he’s interested or if you’re just friends.
Good luck to you. :)
Gaia
Ask if it is a date or not. It’s really that simple. Once you have that answer you’ll know where you stand and how to let things flow naturally from there.
When my bf originally asked me out I wasn’t sure if it was a date or a meet up with an old friend since we knew each other from high school but not as adults. Toward the end of the evening I asked him what was what. He was clear that it was a date to get to know me better. Just ask. It helps save so much time.
Queenie
Who initiated the plans for dinner?
Sandra
He wasn’t in a relationship in these three years though when I asked he said that he has tried asking out some other women though it didn’t go anywhere..
We’ve talked quite deeply, about our exes, about our life outlooks, he was also there for me when my grandfather passed away suddenly, which is why I feel that we seem more than friends.
He was the one who asked me out but I fell sick on the day of our original date so we said we would reschedule. After a few weeks he didn’t say anything so this time I was the one who brought it up.
Lane
I would keep your romantic expectations low and see what he talks about and how he acts not only on the date but especially after the date. Just be your natural self and see how it flows from there. Men aren’t complicated, what you see is what you get, so don’t overcomplicate it. Just listen and observe—if he keeps asking you out then you have your answer without needing to ask it lol. They really are that simple.
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