Texts to to re-establish communication after 'no contact'?

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February 9, 2020 at 4:29 am #784915 Reply

AnonGirl

Attempting to re-establish contact with a guy I dated for a couple of months. We had an awesome connection and enjoyed each others company. It’s been almost a month since we spoke, with him being the last to text. We parted ways due to both not being in a place for a serious commitment post breakups, and agreed that we would re-evaluate in a month to see how we’re both feeling after some space. He has really been on my mind lately, and I feel like I’m in the right space for something to potentially develop. I’m aware that he may not respond, so it’s a risk I’ll have to take.

Any advice for what text I should send?

February 9, 2020 at 7:58 am #784918 Reply

Tallspicy

Yeah, no text. He knows where to find you if he’s interested. You broke up for a reason, and you said that you would establish contact again when you were done. He’s just as capable of doing that. I suggest that you let him do the work.

If he were open to something developing he would contact you. While I know you feel like it was because you both were not in the right space, it could be that he wasn’t that into you. Sorry to be so harsh but I suggest you leave this alone because you will always feel like you were chasing him. He knows where to find you.

February 9, 2020 at 8:01 am #784919 Reply

Tallspicy

But if you must I suggest you say… “I thought of you and was laughing about xyz funny thing. Up to grab some coffee?”

February 9, 2020 at 9:03 am #784921 Reply

Liz Lemon

I think it’s fine for you to text after a month if that’s the time frame you two agreed on. You know you can’t control the outcome, obviously, but it’s worth reaching out and trying.

I like Tallspicy’s suggestion for a text. Keep it light and upbeat. Mention a funny memory you two share and ask if he’s up to meet for a coffee. It’s a low-risk way to feel him out. If he doesn’t respond with enthusiasm, then you know that he’s not feeling the way you are.

I would definitely not send any heavy text about feelings or saying that you’ve missed him or he’s been on your mind. The friendly, easygoing text is throwing him a huge bone– if he’s feeling the way you are, he’ll grab it.

February 9, 2020 at 8:29 pm #784953 Reply

Zoe

Stop selling yourself short and DO NOT TEXT him
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