The New set of Rules from “Not your Mother’s Rules”

I… wonder WHAT guys make of this. I got exhausted reading it and think in the modern day world.. half of these rules are shite ! 4, 6 ,13 , 28 I don’t agree with . Some of the others I am not sure.

kinda glad I did not buy the book ! These are only guidelines.. each relationship is different, and has to be taken onteh merit of that as such.

No.. I agree with you Serena.. YOU can intially fklirt/ show interest..to let HIM know you are interestedd, but AFTER that.. let the guy chase,

I agree with the dating site rule but from what I have seen is that guys whom I have messaged first have lost interest in me quite soon and it never amounted to much. So that also kinda made me wonder about this rule.

Yeah, then the rule doesn’t work. Bec in my profile I have clearly mentioned to message me if you are in the GTA and have a photo. I do not reply back if there is no photo unless the profile seems really really interesting.

I agree, way too many rules!

Men and women are biologically designed to PROCREATE like every other mammal on this planet. Men and Women have specific ROLES, not rules, to ensure the survival of our species—Men hunt and provide; women gather and nurture.

Our roles have been so screwed up because of these societal rules that neither species knows what the hell their doing anymore. The bottom line is MEN PURSUE and WOMEN CHOSE no differently than most other mating rituals that have been going since they were formed.

I find it interesting that all other mammals continue to do what they do without any problems, but humans which are considered the highest intelligent mammals can’t get their dating or mating crap together?!?

I had showed interest in my now boyfriend and even asked him if he wanted to meet up for drinks sometime to get to know eachother better in person. He set up the time and place and after that I didn’t ever do that again while we were dating. I let him text and call me after our first date. He knew it was a game in a way, my “radio silence” after showing so much interest before the first date but he said later it intrigued him.

So idk it worked for me! I’ve always had this idea in my head that I wasn’t necessarily pretty enough to get a guy to chase me on his own, but once he got to know me and my personality then he would. Kind of depressing to see that actually typed out huh. Anyways I know now that I am definitely pretty enough :)

Actually most of the rules are quite repetitive which I found so it is easy to remember. They have just made it a more number bec some girls think that “friending a guy on FB” or “following him on twitter” or snapchatting with him etc etc are not taking initiative. But that is the same as calling a guy first or asking him out first. Its just a new technology era.

I think Rules 3, 4, 5, 9, 11, 15, 17, 18, 20 are all the same rule but with different technology so the younger generation can understand it better.

A lot is just common sense but again time and again we have seen that common sense is not very common.

Rule 6 actually goes into more detail depending on your age group and Rule 8 is almost a repeat of Rule 6.

I like the way they elaborated on Rule 21 and 22 and 30

The number of rules do make it more intimidating but its actually quite an informative book. But then again just like how I do not agree with some stuff what Steve Harvey said, I did not agree with some things of this book either :)

i feel confused to some degree and i agree with some of them but honestly relationships to me have never been about “rules” cause once rules are enforced it feels more like something practiced like a ritual and i already have enough rules and obligations. i dont want my boyfriend to become another obligation that i have to play a game with. alot of the things that r written here make alot of sense for the most part and i actually noticed that alot of these i already did them without knowin that some guys like this. 2nd, every relationship is different and i can tell everyone right now with upmost sincerity that alot of guys that i have met, liked or that have liked me were usually very emotional, clingy and wanting me to call them just as much and honeslty sometimes whiners BECAUSE i wouldnt give them the time of day and even when i initiated it turned out well for me. for the most part, my boyfriend still complains that i dont initiate sometimes or call him and even just basically telling him my feelings enough. i dont know but i think i dont necessarily need dating rules cause its been just fine but i will try a couple things mentioned here every now and then just to see.

i think i only agree with rules 2, 4, 9, 11,14-23, 25-27. the rest i have issues with and/or not specific in situations where it can sometimes b ok to do some of these things cause i have and i still have my guy in a commitment. its not situation specific here, unless it is somewhere els that im not aware of. i think one of the ones that bothers me the most is rule 8. mostly due to the fact that sometimes he has called me alot of times at midnight and beyond midnight and i call him back. ive called him a few times after midnight as well. i read here that calling at “erroneous” times like 2 am is a bad thing for a girl to do but what if the guy does it? is that weird? is it also weird that i initiated our 1st date and ever since then….well, he calls me everyday and asks me out constantly and he’s my boyfriend now. i just dont think i can fully agree with this.

The rules are life-changing for anyone raised without self esteem. In this day and age we are shown that we have to “get the guy” which we fight each other over, allowing guys to treat us like garbage, in turn, we treat each other like garbage. The rules are more than about just dating. I grew up in an old-fashioned religious home where men are put first and bad behavior, yes, even abuse, was not only tolerated, but expected. This type of upbringing led me to believe that I was not important enough to put first and that I was “lucky” if a guy wanted to be with me. After reading the original rules (over and over) and adopting the behavior prescribed, I got the advice that I wish I would have received from my own mother. I changed my life at 27, escaped a pattern of repeat abusive relationships and am now happily married to a loving man (6 years of marriage this year!!!) who adores me & my 3 children- money isn’t as important, but together, we make $125,000 a year, he has 2 kids, so we have 5 together. We have had struggles, but he would never ever raise his voice at me or threaten to leave me. When I applied The Rules and started dating with boundaries & self esteem, I met “the one.” I had quite a few “Next” experiences, but glad I learned. My daughter is turning 17 on the 30th of this month & I bought her “Not Your Mothers Rules” because I noticed her making some similar choices (I guess I didn’t set a good enough example early enough). She has already started reading & applying. A guy broke up with her recently, then sent her a text & she ignored it!!! Before, she would have texted him back! Now there’s a great guy pursuing her who’s crazy about her! So grateful for The Rules!!! Changed My Life!!!

My mother gave me the book and I absolutely loved it. Not only did my dating life improve, but my self worth did also. I realized what I was doing wrong and why I was still single. I was to available, and forward.
I recently signed up for a dating site, and allowing the men to do all the work has weeded out the lazy losers. I dont waste my time with men who are not seriously looking for someone. I dont waste my time entertaining them, keeping the conversation going, making sure I answer quickly so they don’t lose interest. No! Stop! Men need to chase you, and the hungry ones will fight to have you. Thats the one you want anyway.
Thank you!!