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Stacey Lynn
So last Friday night I was bored so I went on tinder, something I’d never thought I’d do. This super cute guy asked me over to his friend’s place for drinks so I thought why not and went. He was gorgeous and a total gentleman at first. He asked me to stay the night so since I had been drinking I did. We watched a movie and had sex. Not normally something I’d do but whatever. Next day I went to leave and he asked me if I could ride with him to his house to pick up some things. We went to the store then his house and he asked if I could take a nap with him since we were up all night. Afterwards we went back to his friend’s house and it was his friend’s kid’s birthday party so I said ok well I’ll see you later have fun and he said “wait you’re not coming to the party?” So I went and every time I’ve tried to excuse myself he asks if I want to stay. I spent all weekend with him until I took him to the airport for his training seminar. He texts me throughout the day and calls me most nights for at least 30 minutes. The dilemma I’m having is that almost 90% of our texts are sexual in nature and I’ve encouraged it by telling him I’m his personal whore. It’s fun to mess around since I don’t know what I want but at this point I’d assume he wouldn’t call to ask about my day if he didn’t care at all. I just want to know what this means from a guy’s perspective. Sorry this is long..any response is greatly appreciated. I’m not clingy or looking for a relationship just want some insight so I know if I should allow myself to consider getting attached.
aliaI would be more concerned if this guy doesn’t turn out to be some kind of Stage 5 clinger. Take your time to get to know him, and ask questions. You rushed into something, it’s not always the guys are all that. Just saying;)
LaneLook up e-tethering. He’s having some casual fun and when he returns he wants to make sure your around to hook up with again. If your not looking for anything then cool but I would not start thinking he’s “the one.”
AnnHi everyone. Similar problem :) So I matched with this guy on Tinder a few days ago, all went fine, he asked for my number. We hit it off well on Whatsapp, great chat and banter but it started to be a bit too competitive as both of us really competitive.He said he thinks we should not meet as he does not wanna be in a competition. Now he sometimes replies to me but not really seem interested. Did I scare him off? What shoud I do?
JennyYou’re prob just a nice play toy till he finds a “lady”
JennyI honestly don’t see a problem with a relationship being more sexual based… I do see a problem with degrading yourself and using terms like “whore” *unless you’re mid-act & it’s that raunchy tone & even then tread lightly. To use terms like that openly creates a lack of respect for you. No suitable man wants to marry a “whore”. That word just has a negative connotation to it that does have a subconscious affect
Eric CharlesKeymasterDon’t let anyone get you worked up about this…
Want the best advice?
Don’t attach… relax… have fun (as you were) and just enjoy the ride…
Nobody here can predict the future and if you’re just relaxed about it, you’ll get to know each other.
Trying to analyze and predict the future (especially with people who have FAR less information than you have) is a recipe for disaster.
If there’s no problem, don’t go analyzing it… enjoy yourself and let things unfold.
LolaHey, you’re his “personal whore” lol….. have fun with it. You never know. 50 year marriages have had stranger starts. Enjoy.
JennyYeah, that’s also exactly the way Travis Alexander and Jodi Arias
JennyStarted… They used terminology like that frequently. I feel uncomfortable with derogatory terms is all I was saying. The situation itself I have no problems with- everything happening quickly & what not…
JennyYou could completely maintain the sexual connotation by saying things like “I can’t wait to f*ck your brains out” or “I wanna feel you inside of me” “I want you to have your way with me” SOOO many ways you can imply his control over you and so on without using personally degrading terms. Words can sometimes be attributed to emotions. Light, flower, sun, grey
JennyHitler
redcurleysueAt this point do not attach. You do not know what you are attaching yourself to….
Sex is sex and is meaningless when it comes to a relationship..if a relationship is what you will want in the future.
Men think differently about sex…they do not attach because of it. They do not think “Oh, I had sex with this person so they mean XYZ to me.
If the sex will remain meaningless to you then have at it…just emotionally do not pull ahead of a man…that would be disaster.
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