To text again or not?

No, don’t text him again. You’ve already asked him once. He hasn’t forgotten about you. He is just choosing not to text. If you text him again you’ll look needy, for one; and if he doesn’t reply again you will feel even worse. If I were you I would make plans for the weekend and go about my life, don’t wait around for him. If he doesn’t get back to you, you’ll be fine :-) Don’t chase this guy. You deserve to be with a guy who wants to be with you, and who follows up with you.

He may be seeing other people. I’m not saying that to make you feel bad, just being realistic. You said he started pulling away when you started getting feelings for him and “putting him on a pedestal”. He probably sensed that you’re developing feelings, and does not want anything serious with you, I’m sorry to say. The fact that he is super affectionate when you’re together, but then doesn’t text you should tell you a lot. A guy who is into you and wants to see you would have set a date/time to see you. It’s really that simple. He is not prioritizing you, so you shouldn’t wait around for him.

Uh oh. You can’t trust the early stages, first date – 3 months of dating as its primarily based on *lust* or *infatuation* (look it up) which is a temporary hormonal surge that has a very high rate of fizzling out quickly, especially for men. When you start feeling them cool down, after only a few dates, its a pretty good sign his infatuation is fizzling out and he will naturally begin the fade or going POOF (disappear). This is the biggest risk in dating and really need to be keep your head out of the clouds and feet on the ground until a enough time has passed, preferably six months and still going strong before you can really know if he’s going to stay or go.

Your best and only move during the early stage is to do NOTHING but be “A lady”! A lady doesn’t take over the man’s job and start asking him out. A lady doesn’t chase men. A lady doesn’t need to remind a man you exist. Nor does a lady place all her bets on one guy. Nope a lady is busy meeting and learning about other guys too so she can choose the best or right one for her, when he picks her first of course. Your only job is to lean back and observe him to see if his lust/infatuation begins to fade because the first clue it is, is when they stop planning dates and spending TIME with you.

A man only gives his TIME (not texts) to a lady he’s keen on or smitten with, if not, he stops asking her out. The TIME a man spends with you is the benchmark you need to watch for, not how much a man can text as that’s lazy, cheap and easy to do but taking a woman out and spending his time and $$ on her is the true indicator of how much a guy likes you. When their feelings fade, the time he used to spend with you will fade out too.

Never over text with a man, especially in the beginning because women tend to talk far too much and give away too much info. about themselves to the point you are taking away the guy’s incentive to take you out on a date and get to know you, in person. Men are the “action orientated” specie where they BOND doing activities, not engaging in endless boring chit chat. This is why you need to allow for a lot of MYSTERY & INTRIGUE by giving a guy “little bits” of information about yourself ON EACH DATE and learning “little bits” of information about him. This is why a bulk of your communication should be ON DATES, not too much but just enough to keep you both interested and wanting to learn more about each other. If you are interesting enough, he will naturally want to keep spending time with you and naturally start the process of integrating himself into your life and you in his (become a couple). If he’s not doing this, then you walk away and continue to meet and date other guys, which you really should be doing anyway, hence not placing ALL your bets on one but placing some one others too so you don’t have to start completely over from scratch again and again and again. Plus men love a good challenge and if there are a lot of guys wanting you, for some odd genetic reason it makes them want you more lol.

I know its super hard when you really like a guy to not want to text, talk or see him all the time but that is actually unhealthy because those who rush in and spend too much time together often fizzle out faster. Best to be a TORTOISE and let the man come to you but you need to pace it, such as accepting 1 – 2 activity dates (those that allow both action and communication) a week and keeping it under a couple hours to maintain the mystery & intrigue as that’s the only way you can really know how keen or smitten a man is on you based on *how often* HE (key word) wants to spend with you.