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Broken
He made me the worst me & went back to his ex when she became her best self. I lost allot of time became depressed insecure gave up on my dreams because I was jealous of his ex I just wanted him to love me he always brought her up I thought I was helping him but he was using me to try to get over her i only blame myself because I came back around this time I was more successful my business was doing very well it was 6 months I thought we could at least talk because he left without saying anything told me he was sick moved back home & really missed me everything I wanted to hear I thought he was over her but he still wasn’t after 5 years together I just was being used I know it’s my fault & I have my issues to work out to let anyone do me like that but he was just the first guy to show any interest in me & it sucks i know I’m not the best looking I don’t have the body he likes I’m not popular I’m not fun I’m very serious about being successful but his ex is all of those things she post how he’s begging for her back now & the grass isn’t greener on the other side he says they are just friends for now I’m moving on but I’m hurt because I wasn’t this girl before he stole my smile my joy my mind my hustle I’m so broken because I knew him first why didn’t he love me why didn’t he choose me I really loved him he tells me she’s on another level then me even with my successful business I make thousands an hour & maybe I thought that would win him over & I know I sound desperate but I knew him when I was growing & god will keep putting u through the same heartache until u learned ur lesson I learned my lesson god it hurts thinking about them living happily ever after him giving her a ring a baby I know he always wanted that just not with me & it hurts cause I knew & I stayed gave my best dreams gave up my career everything & now I’m just trying to move on
Broken
You know what hurts the most he told me he had to earn her love mines was too easy… I didn’t know I should sleep around with other guys while we was in a relationship like he claims his ex did!!! I hate love I really just want to be better… she has a house now a car a good job & is in good shape I let myself go & im trying to get myself back stop comparing myself get the negative thoughts of him thinking about her during sex out my head I just want it to be over already I don’t want him anymore I want myself back but my ego is bruised because he rather be friends with her than be my friend because she looks better than me & it hurts so bad
Elvira
Broken, I know you posted about this in another thread on here. I understand your writing down your emotions and not really seeking advice. I do suggest you keep a journal and read what you write the day before. Your full of hurt a hurt that has been going on for 5 years. This man is manipulative and using you and her. He is not a good person so your holding on to someone who likes to make you feel bad. Please consider speaking to a specialist…it helps to talk to someone and hear yourself speak. You have an attachment to a man who treats you with disrespect and is comparing you to someone else.
You create your own self worth and not what someone else thinks of you. You want to be healthier and look better then go do it! Go workout and be your best self but not for him but for you. You need to gain your confidence back and focus on your business. Plan something for yourself and commit to it. I feel for your pain we have all dealt with people in our lives who can be hurtful…but the difference is we don’t let them get to us. Read the book “everything is figureotable” by marie forleo. It is a great self improvement book that teaches on how to understand that everything has a solution, you just need to do it and not give excuses or let obstacles stand in your way.
Elvira
If you have such a successful business ..don’t you want someone with the same aspirations as you? He seems to want women for what they have not for who they are.
Take a vacation and get a makeover take care of yourself especially since you were there before…this is so simple you can do this. -
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