Twin Flame signs not there

It’s not intuitive, but the giant spark and feeling like you’ve known someone forever is actually a sign of the *opposite* of that person being “the one.” When there’s trauma in your past, those feelings of attraction are due to a dynamic that’s somehow familiar, meaning you’ve found someone who is activating your old wounds and anxiety. Those wounds are how you “received” love as a child so that’s why it feels like quick sparks must mean you’re overwhelmed because this is your person, rather than the red flags they really are!

Getting to know someone takes time. Wanting to rip off their clothes once you do know them really well takes deep vulnerability and grounded trust in yourself. The passion comes out of connection and built trust, instead of from relief that you’ve quieted your longing and anxiety through intimacy. Twin flame passion seems to happen effortlessly at first but also comes with dramatic high highs and low lows and is rarely sustainable. There shouldn’t be zero physical attraction with someone, that won’t work either! But there is a sweet spot for a good and healthy relationship if someone is the full package and compatible with you overall.

I don’t know if this guy is the right guy for you, because you’ve said very little about him. Only that you aren’t longing for him. And two months is a very short time to get to know someone (which is why it’s tough to fall in love so fast since you don’t really know the person yet). You shouldn’t settle for someone you’re ambivalent about, yet it gets tricky if you tend to feel ambivalent about *any* guy who might be emotionally available and open to you. If you can connect better with yourself, which may mean working with a professional to heal your past, that will cause that ambivalence and those trust issues to melt away. You’ll have a better idea of what you want without the doubt. In the meantime, you need to decide if you want to keep getting to know this guy and building trust, or not. Either decision is okay.

Nothing I’m saying is the easy way to deal with all this, but if you are looking for a strong relationship and have had a rocky time with dating up to now, it’s the way to get there. Whether that relationship is with this guy or someone else, the best thing you can do for your dating life is getting good with yourself first. Then the rest falls into place when you’re ready.