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Better off single.
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Faith
Met this guy at a bar about three weeks ago. Instant connection. Started texting the next day & then met the following week at a restaurant. Was great as it was four hours & he kissed me on the cheek. Ever since then, it’s just been texting.
I’m now confused. It’s been two weeks since we saw each other, and it’s just been texting. Like he hasn’t brought it up but still reaches out daily. Idk if it’s because he’s in grad school but I found a comment from a girl on his Insta pic & she was like “my love 😍💜💜💜” that was four days ago. I looked at his previous pics and she’s been mostly commenting heart eyes. It seems that they’ve been knowing each other since 2011 so I’m just a bit confused now. The girl is in a different country. I wanted to ask but my friends said it wasn’t my place. Plus I know he mentioned that he was dating someone last year, but didn’t want to delve deep into that, esp since it was the first date. I checked his Twitter that day & he tweeted, “I know who and what I want” He stopped texting yesterday but replied to one of my Insta stories. Not going to send anything.
Ames
Some guys are huge IG flirts. My ex is one of them. He followed and commented on numerous women’s photos (girls from all over the place–including different countries). He also DM’ed random girls and vice versa. And the comments he’d leave on their photos and vice versa were very flirtatious and sexual. He even sent an artist chick in Italy a pic of his D and she drew a cartoon of it for him (with her at the bottom of it about to pounce on it)…He thought it was ok because it was “art work.” You aren’t even dating this guy though. So he can do whatever he wants. In my opinion, this is a bit of a red flag and/or a sign of extreme immaturity. He could also be a player…and is seeking validation/attention from random people. You def shouldn’t say anything cause you’ll look like a stalker. If this is a deal breaker, then I’d just move on..If its bothering you now, imagine how you’d feel being in a relationship with him. Constantly checking his online activity and feeling paranoid. I don’t understand the whole need to create a big IG following, and online presence. Consider finding a guy who isn’t obsessed with IG/twitter/FB, posting selfies, etc. There are def men out there who are into more interesting, mature, manly things…
Liz Lemon
Ames has some great points. However I would be less worried about his Instagram activity and focus on the fact that he has not asked you for a 2nd date. You have no plans to see the guy again even though he texts you daily. That signals very low (perhaps nonexistent) interest to me.
If he’s an attention wh*re (for lack of a better term) on IG & Twitter, he may just see texting with you as a nice form of attention. It’s validation for him. He could very well be texting multiple women.
Next time he texts you could say, it’s been nice texting you, but I’m looking to date & am not interested in having a texting friendship.
I don’t see the point in eternally texting with some guy who’s going to keep you emotionally tangled and stalking his social media, instead of putting your energy into a guy who wants to take you out on dates.Zoe
Its his girlfriend
Faith
Yeah. I’m just going to keep my distance cause don’t have time for that. He last replied to my Instagram story and was like, “nice moves and you look good too” like I don’t get it. I just stopped replying cause this back and forth is annoying.
Better off single
He’s trying to hold you emotionally hostage and has no interest in another date. If he did, you would not have been texting for 2 weeks straight without a second date. People make time for the ones they truly want to be with even when they’re busy. He wouldn’t have taken that long to set up another date.
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