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Racheli
There’s this guy in my community who I’ve seen around for quite awhile and on several occasions could tell that he was interested. Recently we ran into each other a few times, exchanged some good convo, a good laugh, great eye connection and I could tell that the attraction was mutual. That evening he found me and started to follow me on instagram.
I followed him as well and liked a few of his pictures, then he liked one of mine.
I know he’s a Virgo and from what I know of Virgo’s they don’t typically make a move unless they are 100% sure you are interested as they are terrified of rejection and actually prefer the woman to make the first move.
So about 6 days later, to show my interest, I sent him a friend request on Facebook and thought that would create a space to open up some communication. He accepted my request today but still hasn’t sent me a message.
Do you think that my initiating the Facebook thing shows enough interest that he knows I am open to getting to know him. Should I send a message or allow him to come to me at this point. Does it really make a difference?
Would love your ideas/words of advice.
MsAqua
HA! I posted about a Virgo a while back too, since I also basically made the first move (due to him being a little shy and that notorious little trait of theirs!!) >_<
In my case there was a vibe, but it took me forEVER to pick up on little subtle cues/signals from his side which resulted in me eventually inviting him for drinks/sitting him down to discuss it and basically put my cards on the table.
I’m Aquarius and that’s just how we roll anyway, so there’s that too.The drinks/talk went well under the circumstances, but I can’t tell you if it was the right thing to do yet, because our whole thing is still ongoing (or … “paused” for the moment!), but I’d love to hear if anyone else thinks star signs are a game changer!
Racheli
yea, his sun and venus (the way he approaches relationships) are both in Virgo. He has a moon in scorpio and I’m a scorpio.
At this point I’m not going to message him. The ball is in his court and I would think that this would be enough to show that I am interested no?
I just read the article – Ask a Guy: How Can I Show I Like Him Without Being Obvious. I thought it was very relevant
Racheli
what do you think?
whiskeyagogo
Stop putting stock in star signs, they mean nothing.
MsAqua
Read the article.
So the question is: how bold and confident are you? And how reserved/shy is he?I don’t always agree with the advice on here that the guy always has to make the first move, because –
1) I’ve been in 2 relationships with slightly shy guys where I made the first move/did a fair amount of the heavy lifting, and those were my “happiest” 2 relationships. The one I ended, the other the guy ended. I’m still friends with both of them years later – in fact really close friends with the one that ended it with me. (On the flip side I’ve been in relationships with 2 alphas that pursued me relentlessly. Lasted longer, but lots of conflict. One ended it, other one I ended. Still good friends with the one I ended it with. He’s the recent ex.)
2) I’m not American, and in my country/culture “dating” as described on this site is hardly a thing (we don’t even call it that), and the whole scene just works differently. (And I’ve lived in a country where it worked differently to what I read here or to how we go about it in my home country!) Although human nature is still … human nature …
3) I’m very self assured. I don’t expect to be turned down, and as a result … I don’t often get turned down. And when I do, I take it on the chin and move on. This is where the Aquarius reference comes in too – direct, brutally honest, detached, independent, rebellious weirdo that just does their own thing.
4)I’m an excellent listener/conversationalist … once you engage them, getting them talking about themselves …….
That being said, I think it’s fine that you added him on FB, but wait a couple of days to see if he initiates contact. If he doesn’t … well, refer back to my first 2 questions?
Btw, my guy is also sun+venus in virgo.
Rose
I’ve had two Virgo men doing ALL the moves. Men are men no matter their signs. I Have a Virgo guy right now and I’m talking to him and I have never ever initiated any contact, he is not shy at all. Let the man be a man sweetie.
Cindy
I like what you wrote MsAqua.
I recently read this article on Huffington post called To Friend Request, or Not to Friend Request? (google it) and I think it makes a good point. Moving forward, yes he should pursue. But I see absolutely nothing wrong with you sending him a friend request. He’s obviously shown interest in you and I’m sure it’s flattering to the guy. The ball is in his court now. I’m curious to see where it goes from here
patsytshirt
I don’t believe in star signs, what I know is that and no matter how shy is the guy if he is truly interested in a girl he will find the courage to make a move. Sure it might be disastrous and he might freeze in front of you and throw up on your shoes because he is nervous and can’t even utter a sound lol but at least he tried! I think that at this day and age with facebook, instagram ‘likes’ there is no excuse to be shy. If he was into you he would like your profile pics and posts, he would leave some stupid smiley face in some comment, even the most nerdy dude show his interest. Wait and see how it goes, I hope he is interested.
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