Wanting to feel more romance / more of a priority

My boyfriend and I are in our early 30s and have been together about 2 years. We moved in together after 1 year and things are going well. We are planing to buy a house in the next few months and talk often of marriage.

My issue is that he seems to want a lot of alone time. This is fine and I understand that people need that, I do sometimes as well. I just do not need as much. I work from home and he goes into the office. I also at least 2-3 nights in a full week go out with friends, go to a workout class or watch a show alone. So not only apart during the work day but sometimes after work or on weekends. When we are together things are good but I do feel like I do most of the planning and effort into doing things together.

He left this morning for a work trip where he will be gone all week so last night I poured us some wine and went in to spend time with him while he packed. He was packing last minute and was seeming very stressed so I was there to help. He seemed annoyed I was there towards the end and I thought went down to get another glass of wine. 20 mins later I go downstairs to see him watching something else. I let him know that upset me he didn’t communicate that and that I was trying to spend time together before he left. He got upset and said it wasn’t a big deal. We made up and he left for the trip. I have been feeling sick all day today (likely food poisoning from a sushi lunch) and he hasn’t really checked in.

All of this makes me upset because he doesn’t often do romantic things in general. I guess I just hoped he’d want to spend time together the night before he left. Or upon finding out I was sick would check in or even send me something via DoorDash. Or even leaving a cute note before he left. Those are the types of things I’ve done for him. I feel like I’ve mentioned small things like this in the past and he just doesn’t seem to do them back. He’s a good boyfriend. I trust him. And I know he loves me. I just wonder if this mismatch in expectations can work long term.