What do I do after no contact period?

If he’s your ex, why are you wanting to contact him? Did y’all agree on giving each other space of 30 days and then talk about your relationship? If not, continue the no contact and move on. Seems like you still want him back?

And I didn’t really WANT to end it. I had to. He wasnt really committing.

Danielle, If you ended it because he wasn’t committing and he didn’t hunt you down and blow up your phone and show up with a dozen roses. Or in the very least he didn’t even wish you a Merry Christmas or Happy New Year, then that man is not going to commit to you, most likely. That is my thought process. However, if you want to reach out to him what will you say, I still have feelings for you, do you want to commit to me? Well, you could say that cause you have nothing to lose as he is your ex, but I am pretty sure that you will face the same problem. If he wanted to commit to you then he would.

resist the temptation to text him first. wait for him to do it. make him do the work. it will work better that way. if you do it first, he will “know he has you” so to speak and things will be in his terms & he will just act the same way he did before. keep your power & make him work for it :)

Okay so a guy will pursue no matter what? Even if I left him? I won’t text him then. He did text me a few times after I ended it. But nothing beyond that.

So he just didn’t really care for me?

Danielle, I sympathise because my situation is similar. However a month on from the last contact I am now over it to be honest. IF he got in touch now, which I don’t expect him to do, I wouldn’t be interested and I would have nothing to say to him.

Mine was the same, he “forced” me into dumping him because he was non-committal and it was going nowhere. I was very upset it didn’t work out, but I’ve used the last month to remind myself why it ended, and that if he had wanted it to work he’d have done all the necessary things to make it so. Why would I want someone back who wasn’t that fussed about me?

Yes it hurts to be “rejected” as you might see it, but actually it’s his loss and your opportunity. I’ve been on two dates with different guys, been on holiday, cleared my head, realised what the good things are in my life, lost weight, and I feel better.

I want someone who will treat me right, and it’s not my ex. It’s someone else out there, and he’s given me the gift of the chance to find that person. If I was still flogging that old dead horse I wouldn’t have the chance to meet someone new.

Don’t text him. Spend another 30 days building on the work you’ve already done to clear your head and feel better.

That door has closed so that a new, better one can open.

Hi Danielle!
I hope you doing better…I was in the same situation with you. I think we talked about it in the other thread. I broke up with him, but then i texted said i missed him. And we reconnected again, except I was busy and couldn’t meet him for one month. We just text back and forth. Last tuesday, I met him after my big exam is done, we got a date and he still showed me that he’s not committed in any way. He also showed me some silly pictures he sent to his ex. I got very upset…I told him that’s unacceptable. He also said something that offended me during that date. I got home, processed the whole relationship and i decided I deserved more. I realized he used me for the whole time (I’m resembled his ex but way prettier), I got strong and told him i wanted to end this. So i did it, i walked away again. He texted apologized and all that but I ignored…I did it with my friends and coworkers support.
He doesn’t want anything more after few months, there’s no way he will change his mind. Please do yourselves a favor and stop contacting him. Don’t hold on hope of getting back….Get out there, do yoga, it helps tremendously…Stop that idea of you guys getting back. Let him go in your head…it’s all in your head. My head is clear now and I hope you will too.
If you contact him now, he’ll know that he got you, and he doesn’t have to do anything again. And you will left with a crushed pride. Be strong, we can do this.
If you’re in NYC, I’d like to meet you. We can have our girl’s night.
Btw, i know he still lead his ex on, after three years and she can’t get over him because she kept in contact with him whenever he texts. She hooked up with him when he wanted to (before he met me). I don’t want to be in the same shoes with her…you don’t waste your precious years for some assholes, get out there and kick some asses hehe.