What does he want from me?

This man was never really interested in you that way. You know in your heart of hearts this guy was never interested, even treated you with disdain over the past year, and yet you for some unknown reason keep trying to force something that was never there to begin with.

Look up the word “smitten.” If a man isn’t smitten with a woman then there is nothing a woman can do to make him feel something he doesn’t feel. He’s clearly not interested in developing anything with you or he wouldn’t have acted or behaved the way he did a year ago and would be a couple by now if he did. He was most likely bored, had nothing to do and hoping for easy sex but decided that would be a bad move on his part, make you think he was interested and you would cling onto him even harder. He’s intentionally keeping you at arm’s length so you don’t get any ideas about him ever being your BF because he will never be.

I suggest you go no contact. Stop all initiating or replying to a text from him that doesn’t say something along the lines of “I truly enjoyed the time we spent together the other night, would you like to go do such and such?” and HE plans a date (outside of the sheets) within a few days, and then plans another a couple days later (outside of the sheets), then plans another a few days later (outside of the sheets), and checks in regularly during the times you aren’t together because he can’t get you off his mind! This goes on for several months, and six months later you’re still going strong as a couple in love! That’s what a “smitten man” does, whereas if a man is not doing any of this, then its your cue to to drop the uninterested dudes like a hot skillet. Always retain your dignity and self respect v. grovelling for a man’s affection or attention as that’s not how you attract a man nor is it an attractive trait men want or look for in a GF.