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Missy
I been talking to this guy I met on a dating site called pof. We been talking about 6 months so far and we only met once. A couple of days ago he had invited me to hang out with him and some of his friends for new years.I told of course. Im pretty excited about this because it will be the first time we actually went out in public. The first time we hung out it was at his place. I’ve been kinda hoping that he would ask me out on a date eventually and he kinda did I guess. It would be interested because I will be meeting his friends and stuff. My question is guess what should I expect, and does he likes me enough that he having me going out with him and his friends? Any thoughts?
Stefanie
Missy… this is not a date. Why are you hanging on the hope of something real with someone who you’ve only seen once in 6 months?? And please, LOL, do not tell me how “amazing” he is or how “amazing” your connection is. Go if you want to, but unless he really steps up and starts taking you on proper dates, cut contact and move on. And don’t make the mistake of sleeping with him until you are clear on what kind of relationship he’s looking for, he’s already shown he’s not interested in you. This could be a set up for FWB. Fine if that’s OK with you but I’m guessing because you are posting asking about his level of interest in you, you want something more than FWB.
JC
I do not think this will be a date. And you have spent way too much time just “talking” to this guy. A man needs to earn your time and he has done nothing to show you that he is worth your time. 6 months is ridiculous
lovegiver
Missy sorry this is not a date. Its a kill 2 birds with 1 stone situation. He thinks it would be cool to see you again and he needs to be with his friends for new years eve. Its important to get to know someone you are meeting through online dating but 6 months is too long its penpal zone. How old are you both? Why has it taken long for you to meet again?
He should take you out on a proper date 1-2-1 not offer this p*ss poor “hangout”. Its up to you if you go along but dont expect he to see it as a date. My advice if you really wanna go, ask if you can bring your friends along too. That way you feel safe and don’t potentially get left alone when he hangs out with his friends.
IA with stefanie don’t sleep with him until you are clear about what hes looking for.
Maria
Agree with others, 6 months before meeting? this is unbelievable. Do not wait more than 2 weeks. And this is not a date, so you are being friendzoned with a possibility of an easy sex.
Andy
As lovegiver said, “Two birds, One Stone”. I did this once years ago thinking I going to save some time, and give everyone what they needed. I was soooo wrong. In the end, the guys got hurt, not the girl. I should have never tried to mix the two. This is only what happened to me, it might go very well for you and his friends. You should probably know this guy a bit better before you hang out with him and a bunch of strangers. Date rape is not fun.
Leigh
Missy, can you take a friend with you? It makes me nervous that you met him on POF, which means you don’t really know him or his friends. He’s asking you to a party with his friends and you will be alone. Don’t drink that much.
But, yes, this is not a date. I am curious as to why it took so long for you 2 to finally meet. And your first get together was at his house?
Be careful!!
Leigh
Yes, what Andy said. Date rape is common!
I would cancel Missy! Wait until you can see him out in public during the day.
Hannah
Are these friends all male or a mix? One of my friends got in a very bad situation meeting with a group of guys she hardly knew when they’d all been drinking. You’ve met him once so you have an idea who he is but please be careful.
kaye
Unfortunately I agree with what everyone else is saying. This guy hasn’t taken you on a date and he’s still not! Hanging out at his house for the first time is not a date and neither is hanging out with him and his friends. You’ve only met his once and you don’t know what kind of guys he hangs out with and you really do need to be careful. I really like the suggestion of asking if you can bring a friend of yours along. I don’t get the feeling this guy is really into you or he would be initiating see you more often and one on one and out in public. Hanging out twice in 6 months is not a guy who’s interested. Sorry.
Veronica
Hi Missy,
One time in 6 months is kind of strange. Why are you even still talking to him?
But with regards to hanging out with friends very early, I don’t think men think about introducing girls to their friends the way we might. But I agree with the other poster who said that it’s definitely not a date since you’ve only met once. But if your cool with it then go, he just doesn’t seem that interested so I’d hate for you to waste your time.
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