What happens when he comes back after giving him space?

Dating for one month and you’re already struggling with this side of him is not a good sign.

If he’s not in the right condition to have a relationship, then don’t. You girl, will suffer while he has no clue about how you feel and if you no longer be able to cope, your feelings will turn to resentment. Like you said, you feel awkward, but that’s not his case.

To answer your question, women should welcome their men with open arms and receive them with love when they come back, but that depends on the reason of his need for space–whether legit or not.

But honestly… No genuine man would want space from the girl after dating for only one month.

Hi Maddie,

I’ve had a similar issue with the man I’ve been seeing: full on intense, then pulls right back, going through his own issues, getting on with his stuff. At first it really upset me because I was in the mindset that I needed this to work out, I needed him to want to be in a relationship with me. After a week or so of thinking carefully, I realised that I am in a similar space to him with regard to relationships and I don’t want to get too invested, just keep it casual.

So when he came back, I was lighthearted, amusing, made it clear that I’d been busy, talked about mutual interests, and he started initiating contact again, which increased, and then asked for a date, which lasted a whole 24 hours. This has happened a few times now: at first I was distraught that I’d never see him again: now I know this is just his way, and it gives me space too, which is beyond invaluable!

My advice is to think about what YOU want, not put his needs first. If you want a relationship and this pulling back isn’t acceptable to you, then leave him be. If, however, you are able to cope with the ebb and flow of his this, then by all means stay in touch, but let him initiate and let him set the pace. Mirror what you get from him, don’t play games, but always consider what YOU want and need, and don’t put yourself last after the needs of a man who, after all, you barely know.

Good luck!

Annie

If you’ve only been dating a month – and if the guy is really going through hard times and needing support – it makes sense that he doesn’t feel comfortable to lean on you and turned to family instead. Men want to look strong, especially to a woman they like. I wouldn’t be upset if he needed the time – he’s back – so like the other ladies said, welcome him and be relaxed.

Now if this becomes something of a habit – I wouldn’t necessarily say it is something you need to endure if it bothers you. Or if you were dating for more than four months, it would seem a little less likely that he’d retreat to his cave and would open up to you instead. If either of these happened in the future, then I may say something – in a nice way. But this first time, I’d give him a pass.

Just act friendly – and let him know you missed him and ask how he’s doing.

What should a woman do if her man says he needs space but after some days he is groping you and fondling with you to have sex? Yet you both sleep in different parts of the house. And he still wants the woman to go places with him.

Had a guy keep telling me he had issues, stresses or problems. It was his way of keeping me at a distance. No real details of what these problems were either.

Sure I wanted to be supportive and all. But at the end of the day, he just didn’t want me in his life. I eventually wished him well and moved on.

Ferroh, you are responding to a years old post and not very likely get many responses. But for you: you are wasting your time giving support to a guy that is hot and cold, has an attitude and then asked for space. Guys who are in love with a woman do none of those things. They declare there love for her instead. So i would certainly not meet him again since it will probably only gives you false hope