What is the best way to handle this with dignity and class?

Also, many of the posts on here were not up for interpretation. There was one meaning. Posts that were nasty were not lost in translation or misinterpreted to be so.

Well, that’s 10 minutes of your life you’ll never get back.

I can’t stop laughing! It’s like watching those tiny fiesty little rat dogs biting at people’s heels!

Happy people would move on! But this is better than watching the kardashians! Lol

Gotcha! Xxx

Sophie refused to listen to the advice to write the guy off as a jerk and not waste anymore time and energy on him. She kept going on and on posting and trying to get some kind of different answer. She also was in a bad emotional space because of her friend. I think many women on here were nasty and made unhelpful and uncalled for remarks. I do not defend them, but she was acting pretty irrational and over the top. He does sound like he took advantage/lied to her. This happens to us women often,sometimes bevause the guys are pigs and sometimes because we are stupid. Really, it is just how it is-it would be great of that was not the case but…

Suz, when you are here a while and you see the same old same old same old things happening over and over and then ladies will not take good advice but keep posting and digging their heels in to prove to themselves they are right, you will understand better why certain people are more direct. Andrea hasn’t posted here in months and T just suddenly showed up. All around the same time Jamie posts. Mean girls patrol is good at pointing fingers for being mean and judgmental when they do the same things to those who disagree with them. Guarantee one of them will post here and slam me for saying so. No one is here for kicks, everyone is trying to help. Some are more eloquent and tactful than others. Some have a more direct style. If you don’t like the advice, ignore it. Fights break here on a regular basis because egos get involved.

So, what are you saying Helen? That I’m Andrea and T? Another poster accused me of being Suz. I don’t even think any of these posters have a tone that’s close to me. Actually, I am a regular poster from YEARS who just started posting under a different name and e-mail address because I was tired of personal information that I shared with posters so they could have the benefit of my experience being thrown in my face every single time someone disagreed with me. Or, I would ask a question that had nothing to do with ANYTHING from my past like “does this sound like a good guy for me to date,” and have everyone go off on me telling me I shouldn’t be dating and should, I guess, go crawl down a hole somewhere. It was not helping me and it was upsetting me. I AM sensitive and I feel other’s pain and I don’t like seeing other people hurt and in pain. I was bullied a lot as a child and because of that I always stand up when I see others being bullied.

I have never engaged in bullying behavior because I disagreed with someone. I’m sorry if you feel that I have. I agree that there are some posters who get upset when they are not told what they want to hear. It’s human nature to be like that. I think it’s even more frustrating for many women on here when they see themselves in the poster and wish they didn’t make the choice they made at the time and that causes them to react to the person in a very emotional way that can put the person on the defensive.

I think there is a difference between telling someone harsh truth…which I have done, if I don’t think someone is interested, I will say, sorry he’s not interested…and being mean to them. I know some people don’t believe in sugarcoating. Yes. But there is a difference between saying “He’s not interested in you, you’re wasting your time, move on…” and telling the poster “you’re pathetic, you’re stupid, you need therapy…” etc etc. The latter is bullying. It’s not surprising that people are starting to think this is okay when we have a major leader of the free world freely engaging in it and being applauded for it. Well, I’m going to fight it and stand up for people when I see it happening to them. Because in my mind, tomorrow that could be me.

the OP wasn’t refusing any advice but was continuously being accused of doing so…

t-really-if that was the case-that she was listening and understanding the advice (which mainly was to not give this guy another minute of her time) she would have said thanks and stopped responding. She did not and sounded more and more irrational in each answer.

But her original question was”what classy comeback/exit line can I text to this guy?” Nearly everyone said just don’t/leave it alone and move on and she kept going on an on. I do not defend cruel comments, but she was very frustrating with her comments so people got frustrated with her attitude. She can take or not advice or pick and chose but why did she need to argue with our opinions. Again-she sounded irrational-even if we know the cause could be stress from her friend dying-that is how she sounded.

Yes-but actually that kind of makes my point-just as she should have/could have chosen to not answer and forget this guy-which I guess she did eventually-she bothered to respond/try to explain. So she has a habit of dignifying crap behavior with a response when maybe the classy way she seeks would be to take the high road and ignore/not engage with bad behavior from men or posters on here alike=just as was originally advised.

I think the OP was being sensitive and overreacting. Yes, definitely. Very emotional. I think that was more because of her losing her friend then about the situation with a guy, and she was in pain and hurting and people on here were being cruel to her. She was striking back at them and expressing her emotion to THEM because she couldn”t express it to DEATH who took her friend. This was an outlet for her. I think people definitely could have been more supportive.