What is the best way to handle this with dignity and class?

I slept with someone on the FIRST date and they stayed with me for four years.

Kind of wish he HAD ghosted me though. Those are four years I will never get back.

People who don’t expect or are even sure if they want a relationship don’t hop in the sack with someone on the second date and don’t spend hours bitching about his bad behavior on a public website. Doesn’t matter if she was gullible or not. She made a judgment call of her own free will and it didn’t go the way she wanted it to, and she was not open to learning anything from the experience. Way over the top postings, kind of hard to feel sorry for her the way she’s handled herself here. She doesn’t want judgment or name calling but she sure dished it out.

My point is she spent way too much time on the whole thing. If she was just venting she didn’t need to defend herself – if she didnt’ like the comments or advice she could have just ignored. She seems to really need to be right plus had a lot of time on her hands plus wasnt’ dealing with what was really bothering her. Just saying.

She asked for advice. She got plenty.

I just think posters misinterpreted and twisted a lot of what the OP said and it wasn’t fair. The only reason I’m still writing about it is because I see that happen quite frequently on this forum and its frustrating.

I don’t think OP had a chance. She said multiple times that she knew she was overly angry because she was upset about something else, she said multiple times that she didn’t care he didn’t want a relationship but was angry he was hurtful when she was going through a difficult time. Whatever dhe said was disregarded or twisted. She wasn’t asking for advice on her “mistake” trusting him or to ve told she should have not slept with him. That was over sleast and shed not seen him since. She was asking for advice dealing with his rudeness. Most of her posts were just defending herself.

I’m sorry, I disagree. She was overly upset about his supposed rudeness and she was very clear that she took no responsibility for the situation, it was all on him. She was here to bitch and expected more agreement and sympathy than she got, but given her refusal to take any responsibility she’s gonna catch some flack. There was an easy answer to this and she didn’t want it. If you’re upset about something else and you choose to over the top bitch about something else when you know perfectly well you’re in a mood, then the wise thing to do would be keep your mouth shut until it passes. Oh well, whatever.

“then the wise thing to do would be to keep your mouth shut until it passes” …that’s right! what a healthy response.

it was the longest thread because of people like you making up things about the OP, leaving her to clarify herself over and over and over again, without ever getting the advice she sought.

you made this up: “But bottom line is he hurt her ego and feelings and she wanted to get back at him by sending some quip she felt would make her look like he didn’t have an impact on her,

Of course we all know, as does probably he, that she was way invested in him and of course got hurt because she gave her body and then felt like a fool.”

She wanted to send a text back because he was utterly rude to her during an extremely rough time. Where on earth did you get all that?

Omg.. I’m peeing my pants you are so funny!

Pip, please, tell me where you got your information? “Of course we all know, as does probably he, that she was way invested in him and of course got hurt because she gave her body and then felt like a fool.” I would love to know how you know this.

I’m not sure why it isn’t patently obvious the classy dignified thing to do is walk away from someone who is rude to you and not engage.

Long thread over nothing.