What to say when he asks me out every two weeks

I’m interested to see what other say to this as I’m in a similar situation myself.

How mich do you like this guy? If you really like him and are curious to se what happen than maybe put a time limit on it. So you could decide if things still aren’t progressing the way you would like by the end of October that you will call it a day. At that point you could send him a message something like this…

“Hey…(insert name), it;s been greta getting to know you and I’ve had a lot of fun spending time with you, however I get a feeling we’re not on the same page. I’m really looking for a man who wants a relationship and you don’t seem to be that guy, let me know if I have this wrong, otherwise, no hard feelings, I think it’s time for me to move on. Good luck with everything, take care”

He’s already shown you it isn’t going anywhere. He’s dating around and part of the rotation. About half of what Angie said will do – hey’ve I’ve enjoyed our time together but the space between our dates tells me we want different things. If I’ve got it wrong pls let me know, otherwise I wish you much happiness in life. The less you say to men the better.

I was in a similar situation recently…charming guy, promising chemistry, four or five meetings and all initiation from him…he is certainly not a shy type of guy…anyway when I got the feeling that it was going nowhere…with a lot of gaps from him, I simply sent him an email thanking him for all the good times we had but clearly saying that I needed more affection and attention than he was capable of showing me and thats me so we are not meant to be. but I really meant it cause I hate being strung along…it was like when he realised I was not going be on his rotation, he got pretty upset and tried calling, left sweet messages…I thanked him by sms…a week and half ago…no news anymore. But I need more interest than he can show, so it doesnt matter.

Hi,

I think I need someone to help me see things clearly here.

I met this guy at work. He was a customer. And I was the one who add him on facebook. He accepted my friend request and send me a message first. Then we started to talk. In the beginning, it was really chill and fun. I didn’t expect anything because I didn’t think anything will come out of this. But he asked me out and we started to hang out. In the beginning, we hang out maybe every week or 2 weeks due to our busy schedules. We got closer and started to take things more seriously. But I tried not to expect anything out of this relationship because he said he has to move away in a couple months. Then I was dumbfounded because I didn’t know why we even got to that point if he was gonna move away. I still haven’t cut him off because I really like him, but I still didnt want to let him go. About month prior into his scheduled move, he told me that he got a job offer here, and that he wouldn’t move anymore. I was really happy at that point. Then he went on a trip out of the country with his family for 2 weeks. During that time, we barely contacted each other. (We text every day up to this point.) when he came back, I thought that we can actually move things along, but what happened was we still meeting once every 2 weeks. In the beginning he said that he wasn’t looking for a relationship. I know I can’t change his mind. But I recently asked him again, and he said he’s really serious about us. But wouldn’t someone who’s serious about a relationship want to spend more time together? Please help, maybe it’s obvious that I should walk away rather than keep giving him the chance to prove himself.

Thank you.

If you like him, be patient. If this continues for more than 2-3 months, then you can talk to him about it. But do not do it in writing.

Also try to initiate something by yourself. And make sure it is something fun so that he will be looking forward to seeing you next time.

I just went through this. He only contacted me to make plans and that was only about every two weeks because he works two weekends a month. In the meantime, *I* would shoot him a text. Most times he would eventually respond…other times he didn’t. Unanswered texts in a relationship always cause me anxiety; I know it means a low level of interest, but I tried to tell myself he just wasn’t a good texter. Last week he pulled the plug by text and said he started dating someone else. I’m sure he’s about to do the same thing to her, if she lets him get that far.

A guy like that, who keeps you at arm’s length, has issues and will not allow the relationship to progress. It will never be more than what it is today, right now. Especially if he’s barely contacting you and it’s in the honeymoon stage. I would tell him that you don’t think you’re compatible since you prefer to see and communicate with your partners frequently, and that’s not him.

I went through this recently. I had a first date with a woman that went very nicely. Then, despite my efforts, she was never available to see me until a month after. She has kids but has every Wed and every other weekend without the kiddos. I went on the second date and it felt really awkward to me, like a first date. Then another two weeks went by with her not seeing me during times when I knew she did not have the kids. I told her via text that I’d like to see someone a bit more than every few weeks-she lives about 3 miles away. Your best bet is to move on. In my view, it doesn’t matter if it’s a man or woman. If they can only sporadically see you, then it is either you are part of a large rotation or the interest isn’t there. If someone is really into you, they will make some time. Move on to other prospects that indicate more interest

Not too early to know. A man who wants to be your boyfriend acts like it and within 6-10 weeks. This is not escalating. Just say the shorter version. In fact, I would even leave an opening on the “if I’m wrong”. The average couple is committed by 6 dates. If he were seeing you once a week, that is one thing, but every two, nope nope nope.