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    Dutchiii

    Hello and thanks for helping me.

    I’m 28 and he’s 29.I’ve known this guy for months now, started as friends but became quite close after a while. He’s always been very helpful and nice to me, I must say, as “only friends”. He had problems with his current gf and I advised him to communicate more with her. They finally broke up and I allowed myself to open up to his advances (we would share kisses only). Since then, he would pull over at my house every little week,we would chat but that would be it. He never really asked me out, and I was starting to get attached and confused. I ended up asking him one month later “where is all of this headed?” and he said he didn’t know,never really planned his attraction to happen…so I said “okay,please stop coming over if you don’t know what you want”. He also told me with his ex, they were casually talking again. So Until recently we would just talk on the phone. I’ve got to say I’ve always been careful with him,letting him initiating THE MOST (calls, messages…) and never acting needy. Anyway,he hadn’t clarified our “situationship” yet but kept sending me relationship posts on whatsapp. I asked him again “funny how you never made your intentions known,but would keep sending me things about rships”?.To which he replied “oh I just found them funny”. I have to say I stopped replying to him right since,and it’s been days. After that he sent other jokes,which I also let on “seen”. Last time he contacted me again on whatsapp and said “I don’t want to ignore you back”…I took 2 hours and just as I was to reply,noticed he had blocked me. I was shocked to say the least,but managed to send a text on his phone: “Was about to reply but I saw you blocked me. I wasn’t ignoring you,just trying to protect myself. I guess it was a good decision from me…take care”. It’s been days and I haven’t heard from him. I feel proud though. Do you think he’s worth waiting a little bit for or he’s he just a bullet I dodged ? Thank you.

    #803981 Reply
    Dutchiii

    I forgot to say he actually voiced a bit later on “he’s kinda thinking about me as a gf” or whatever that means…

    #803993 Reply
    Newbie

    No he is fresh out of a relationship and still not over her according to you. Of course he likes some attention from you, but i dont see anything serious. I dont really understand why you sent that last message. To get his attention? Sometimes its best just to let it be

    #803997 Reply
    Dutchiii

    @Newbie, he said she was the one trying to get back with him, that he was never really in love with her and that they would just exchange hellos…the last message was to explain why I stopped responding to him, since he tought I was just ignoring him for the sake of it. Truth is I was just trying to back up since he wasn’t being straight about the whole thing.

    So you think he’s not worth it ? Thanks.

    #804003 Reply
    Newbie

    He blocked you plus there is no way of knowing the guy says the truth about his gf. He hasnt even processed the break up. So no i dont think its worth waiting for a guy who has never asked you out and who blocked you. Go no contact with this guy.

    #804005 Reply
    Raven

    You were in ‘Rebound’ City Limits…

    #804007 Reply
    Dutchiii

    @Newbie you’re absolutely right. I planned on staying NC anyway. I’ve always been very mature and careful about the whole thing.

    @Raven I knew I was a rebound. Was just trying to know if I should expect more from it by letting him decide from afar or just walk away already.

    Anyway, you guys made sense. I’ll get over it, thank you. We’ll be at the same administration school from January. I hope by this time I would have been so over him, I’ll act like I’ve never met him before.

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