What will he think if i dont text him back

His lack of texting might be because he is texting another woman.

yes he could be texting another woman that is true. although he has told me he isnt dating anyone else so have no choice but to believe that.

Don’t play games because they will back fire on you.
Keep in mind that texting really should not be what you value in a budding romance.
You have a date tomorrow and that’s great.
Remember before you met this guy you had a life and still do.
Don’t sit around waiting for a text or expecting an instant reply.
I’ll assume he works during the day and not all jobs are okay with you sitting around texting. They are paying you to work and be productive.
I think less chit chat between a date is good it gives more to talk about on the date.
Plus isn’t it a nice feeling to know that yes, he is busy but prioritized his time to take you out on a date?

Lorae…. You want to know one thing? since all this social media and texting started, relationships became more meaningless. Back in the days, we used to have charm of seeing each other, excitement of getting to talk to each other on landline. Now texts and social media has ruined it all. There’s no excitement. We don’t have much to talk when we are together after all day long texting and snap chatting and hence we start picking fights. This guy is mature, he works full time and yes it is very challenging. You can not be on the phone 24/7 while at work if you want to keep your job. Not texting enough is a very small thing to be upset about. Why everyone is calling you immature is because we’ve seen much worse. Stay busy in your life, go window shopping, enjoy and indulge in your shows. After a long day at work I am just dying to watch netflix and chill all by myself. Cherish these moments and don’t nag the guy and do not make him your emotional support.

See don’t sweat that texting.
I hope you two have a great date.
Dating should be fun and exciting.
Lastly, as a man gets to know you and has feelings he’ll make you a priority.
Don’t expect that right away, but when it does happen you won’t have a thing to fret about.
When a man is falling he can’t help but think about you and he’ll want to see you.
Best wishes.

Dear Lorae – I want you to know I am appalled at the way you have been spoken to on this thread! And though I don’t feel it is appropriate for me to apologize for the mean things others have said – Im sorry you have gone through that and you should COMPLETELY ignore or skip the posts that are rude.

I also have high communication needs and I am 43years old. I am positive many women on this forum would call me needy but I don’t listen to name-calling. I feel everyone has a right to be who they are and hopefully working to become a better person every single day. I would struggle if I was in a committed relationship with a man and we only spoke on dates with little or nothing in between. (Though if you are not his official girlfriend yet – that changes things! It is good that he is not leading you on and making you a priority if he has not put a label on it)

There is some good advice that has been suggested. When my boyfriend met me I was in a writing group (one day per week), on a volleyball team (one day per week) and did as much with my friends as I could. Doing things outside of your relationship helps make the inside of your relationship more interesting. AND it has the added benefit of keeping you so busy you care and notice less often about your man’s texting habits. I am sure that the school you are attending has functions or clubs you could join. And almost every community has opportunities for boards, clubs and recreation. This will make you happier and relieve some of the stress of school.

Finally, if you decide to be a committed relationship with this man – you may want to consider that you may not be compatible when it comes to communication needs. REMEMBER – you do not try and change a man (or ask them to change as little as possible) Lasting love is about ACCEPTING a man the way he is and being happy. Thee is a chance your guy will be more in contact as your connection grows – or he could remain exactly the same! If he doesn’t make you happy – its your job to leave the relationship and look for someone more compatible.

Invite peace into your heart and enjoy yourself on the date. Explore another human and what he’s about. It will be great if you two end up falling in love – but if you don’t – its not the end of the world.

so you are appalled that the girl gets a text 3 times a day and complains? ok nuf said

You sound like a royal brat. You are too young to fathom this but men that age use you as arm candy. They know how stupid you are and can replace you with some one just as stupid and better looking,, focus on being smart. And trust a man, he would rather be with a woman of both intelligence and beauty.

Your youth will fade,and if you don’t have more than that… good,luck

Okay, the attacking posts are not necessary, although there are a lot of valid points being made there is a better way to communicate constructive criticism without straight up insulting someone and calling them lazy.

I can relate, I also have an age gap, mine is a 9 year difference but the principles still apply. Men in their thirties for the most part only text to make plans and check in. They text more in the beginning and then it slows down. Don’t take it personally and again, keep your mind busy. Even if you don’t have the ability to get a job, there are so many other things you can do.

I have to say… I fear for this generation because technology has ruined relationships and courting.

No mystery anymore, and women insist on constant contact for reassurance, while people do and should have lives outside of their phone. It’s sad and this new generation will be the ones missing out because the high emphasis on virtual contact results in either non relationships that center around texting , not dating. Or they blow the real relationship because they nag a man to death who wants to be with them, but not be tethered to a phone.

Hi, Lorae I am a 21 year old young woman who understands your frustration. The best thing to do is to begin to cultivate your own life outside of him and don’t pressure the texting situation. Trust me it works, its also totally okay to not respond immediately all the time. Im sorry people are being so hateful and bitter. I think it’s hypocritical of people to get mad at your assumptions, then assume things about who you are. I understand what your going through and im sure he likes you and when you start doing your own thing, you won’t even notice the in-between.

love Gaby

I think the emotional turmoil you are in is very relevant. This person is taking you for granted and not respecting you by not replying in a reasonable time frame and even worse, not at all. So i am perplexed by the additional slating of people who are talking about you being passive aggressive. These people are clearly unrelated to hurt that you are going through..similar to the guy you are seeing.
Don’t let others steer you in what you feel is the right thing to do. After all you would not be in here if things were all nice and lovely now would you.

People are cruel, people are disrespectful, liars and cheaters, some are lovely – it is your call to do what you think and feel is best for you. I think that a no reply hopefully learns this man that bad behaviour and out right disrespect is not going to be tolerated by you. Gain your self back, your stregth and dignity as this person seems not to care for that. You will meet another though next time be aware of the signs early on – that way you may have the chance to walk away with your dignity intact. I wish you well unlike others who clearly don’t in here

I’d love to see the Internet and mobile phones go the way of CB radio. I think that a lot of modern technology is very socially corrosive. I don’t date women,or men for that matter,which is good because I must be the #1 world’s worst texter. I have only sent one text in 8 years!