When a toxic relationship ends…

I am so sorry that you are going through this. When I was going through the toughest breakup of my life my friends were a constant support to me. So my first advice to you will be to reconnect wt friends and family. Secondly follow complete no contact, don’t stalk his profiles etc. Thirdly, have faith in God and keep yourself very, very busy. These are the things that really helped me in my situation. Lots of love to you. Pick yourself up. Ypu can do it.

Wendy,
I can relate so much to what you are going through right now. I literally had something similar happen to me a few years back and it was like getting the wind knocked out of me.

I moved cross-country for a guy I had been seeing for two years. Left my amazing job, friends, family, my element, all to start a life with him (he was from the opposite side of the country as I was). We lived separately in the same city before moving cross-country to where he was from, and once we got there we of course moved in together since I didn’t know anyone.

Long story short, the relationship eventually ended once I caught him cheating on me and it was awful. I felt so scared and alone because I was away from all my friends, family and home. Usually when a breakup happens where you’re from it’s easier to get close to your friends and family and just your overall support system but I couldn’t do that since I was so far.

I didn’t want to leave my job and move all the way back home until I had money saved, so I moved into my own studio apt and decided to give myself a year to save and just explore the on my own. I chalked it up to, “well I may never get to live here again so I might as well make the most of it”. I got busy with work, started a regular workout routine, found myself reading more to keep my mind occupied and being really open to making new friends. I also, decided I wasn’t going to sit around and wait for people to hangout with so I’d find myself sitting on a park bench reading, getting breakfast at the bar alone in my fav bfast spots, learning new recipes and sharing with friends back home how they turned out, etc.

I realize it’s Covid so it’s hard to get out and keep busy right now. I’d suggest making a plan as to what you’re going to do (either move home or stay and see what you find on your own). Then order some books you’d enjoy reading, make a workout playlist and go for walks, call friends and family to chat, just start getting in a routine.

Eventually, you will see it gets better. I know it’s hard to “start over” but I promise it’s for the best. He’s not worth your time if he wasn’t good to you. My ex that cheated on me begged for me back a year later and I told him to get lost! He’s still single and miserable it seems since he hasn’t been able to find anyone like me and he’s looking for happiness in the wrong places.

Oh another idea, I remember playing with a lot of makeup when I was bored. I’d try to prefect my cat-eye or get my eyelashes just perf. I’d play music while doing this and imagine “someday a lucky guy will get to see my masterpiece haha”.

You can do this! I promise!