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FluffyBear
Hi everyone!
So there’s this guy who I’m really good friends with, but there is chemistry between us. He moved away for work, but I will be visiting him soon. He text me and asked if I was seeing someone. I am not, but I want to keep some mystery and don’t want to outright say no. I want him to chase me, like he has before when he thought there was someone else that I was interested at home.
What should I say/do? Any advice is welcome.
Thank you and Happy New Year!
Andy
What’s wrong with saying, “no”? Is your objective to make him jealous or lose interest?
Maybe go with the idea that there are some cute guys that have been flirting with you, but they haven’t asked you out yet. Maybe that’ll give you the mystery you’re looking for.
If there are too many cocks in the hen house, I start getting paranoid about catching an STD. There are a lot more safer hen houses out there.
FluffyBear
Hi Andy,
Thanks for your comment. I like the one about guys flirting but not having asked me out yet. He’s the sort of guy that loves the chase. If I directly say no, he will lose interest. When he is chasing, we have this crazy chemistry so that’s why I want to keep some mystery in it. I hope it doesn’t seem like I’m game playing too much!
Andy
Do what you enjoy and have fun with it. Good luck.
Andrea
Then what if you are eventually date him exclusively? I believe that is what you want? Are you not worried he will lose interest? Wouldn’t it be better he lose interest now than later after you develop attachment for him? If you can’t be yourself around him, he isn’t the one for you. Just read the new article Sabrina posted on this site, the first one in 8 most important things for a new relationship: choose wise.
FluffyBear
Hi Andrea,
Yeah, I would like to exclusively date him some day, but right now it isn’t on the cards. He is working abroad and I don’t think either of us are interested in an LDR. It’s not that I think he would lose interest long term, it’s just that we can’t be in a relationship right now, but want to remind him of that chemistry. I also don’t want him to think I’m waiting around for him, and I’m not, I just haven’t been dating anyone recently because of busy work schedules.
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If you can’t answer a simple question honestly at the beginning, you may likely setting yourself up for failure.
The guy like that kind of chase? Sounds immature and you want to go along with it?
As Andy says, good luck.
kaye
I always say that honesty is the best policy and I’m not one to play games. Simply tell him there is no one serious in your life right now. However, being that this is an LDR and you are already worried about his interest level I really wouldn’t waste any time on this. Find a local guy who is interested!!
Mae
An honest, “Not at the moment… What about you?” would suffice. No need to overthink it or see it as a game. If he wants you, he’ll go after you.
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