When he calls other woman beautiful but you…

If it was once in awhile in certain situations I would not mind…but if it is all the time and he never compliments me I would feel a bit disturbed.

Complimenting a celebrity or a friend or family memeber is fine. I think what I would say is not right is the fact that IMO if your with someone you want that person to make you feel like the most beautiful woman in the room and if he is complimenting others than how is that making you feel beautiful?

It has nothing to do with needy..I think its more of respect. I am the first to acknowledge a beautiful person man/woman…but if I am with a man I am not going to say wow that guy is very good looking or he has a great body.

Its great to acknowlegde the beauty in others but be respectful of who you are with and how/when you say it.

Phillygirl your GF was a wise man…love it!

Thanks L. My grandparents were married 67 years and still in love until the day my Grandmother died.

They were my benchmark for a successful relationship. Always holding hands, never disrespectful to one another, best friends, and still crazy in love. My grandfather would stand up and sing love songs to my Grandma in the middle of a crowded restaurant, and I’ve even seen mean tear up when he did it.

Anyone who saw them together was blown away. So that’s what I want. I will never settle for less.

And I asked them both for relationship advice all the time. They were both very wise but not in a stuffy way. They were very modern and amazing individuals.

It’s a shame they didn’t write a book. Between all their witticisms and sound advice, it would probably still be a best seller. I was very blessed.

Why would a ‘shy’ guy compliment a stranger & not his girl?

Phillygirl, where is your grandfather? Can I give him my number? lol

Heck, don’t put up with this, not only it is plain tactless, it is a power game. He wants you to feel down, as if always wanting to gain his approval and “earn” his praise.

I see two ways of dealing with this. One, a little low class, but can be effective. Start drooling over guys. Say OMG look at this package, he can come and sleep in my bed anytime. Wow, this guy is so sexy, not handsome, but something about him..Keep on doing it and emphasize features that your guy does not have.

The other solution is more classy. Tell him to stop once and for all, that you find it demeaning and not appropriate, especially because he never compliments your beauty. If he finds another woman beautiful, then he can keep it to himself in your presence. It should not be hard, should it? And if does not oblige, then you need to pull away.

This is tactless and it will bring your self esteem down eventually. Do not allow it. Stand up for yourself.

I would dump him if you are not married. I made mistake of marrying the same type and years later verbal put downs have gotten worse. He compares me to porn stars now…its demeaning. Just to get even I started doing the same but its a waste of your life

I have the same same issue. My husband can talk about how beautiful another woman is for like 5+ minutes, but his compliments to me are very sparing. I’m not sure why he continues to do it. I’ve called him out on it and explained why it bothers me. He will stop doing it for like a week and then go back to the same thing instantly.

In my experience, this is how his parents are towards each other, so maybe he mirrors it. Regardless, my family didn’t act this way. And even if they did, I don’t want to have to compare myself with every other woman we encounter. I’m not sure what advice I have to offer, but if its happening now, there is a good chance that it won’t stop once you get married. Guess it depends on how much you’re willing to give up in a relationship :(

just tell him to date them then, easy he needs to know that not everything is about him and how he feels but it’s about you together.

I knew someone with the same problem, the moment when she started to tell him to stop being a jerk or to just go date them he changed completely. some people live in their own world or need to feel someone’s insecurities to get rid of their own.

But then again it’s better to find someone that really likes you the way you are and doesn’t feel the need to put you down.

Remember you are beautiful and no matter what anyone tells you,
you become beautiful because you feel it.
be confident that’s really sexy a good guy will come up to you or you’ll go up to them and that’s it.

Bam love!

Nah I don’t know for sure but he does seem annoying. Just tell him directly what you feel.

Good luck

Some men aren’t bright at all…huh? Doing this to your wife is only going to make her resent you. Female psyche is so sensitive that ONCE is already too many. It’s like telling a man guy his penis is smallish..if a woman says it once and she can kiss goodbye to his desire for her. Sex continue but it will never be the same for him.

Those men are dummies. There are floaters, players, ghosts, and there are dummies. LOL

What is wrong with you girls?
Why on earth would you accept some guy trying to control you and make you feel small with this kind of behaviour? I’d be out the door if any man did this. It’s a shovinistic attempt to put you down and control you.
Anyone who did that would not me again. Are you so desperate that you can’t see the difference between a man and a pig? I have no time for pigs even of he was the last man on earth!

I am so tided and bored about all this modern pseudo-philosophy and pseudo-psychology with schematic classifications that shallow, rigid and never fit anyone well.

Most of this alpha prophecy is designed to make normal men feel insecure and turn them into aa–holes.

No normal man who wants top be happy is going to “let them come and let them go as they please or displease you”. This is such BS I want to laugh at.

Even horrillas in a pack, the leaders, protect their females and look after everyone’s safety. Yes they have access to all females, but all females secretly behind his back mate with all other males.

I know men who don’t have independent thinking or have misogynistic tendency would gladly jump on this “please me” wagon…to justify their low mean tentendecny. The result will be no happiness with a woman ever. but int he meantime they would hurt a lot of women. That’s why it is very important to cast such males away as soon as you sense any of those tendencies.

Understand men these days read a lot, and a lot of those books are total sociopathic crap. LOL

This post makes me feel sad. My husband does things similar and it’s heartbreaking. It’s also insidious sometimes. I don’t think you even realize it ‘til later if it’s subtle. Wears you down. I find myself looking at and talking with other men now or just responding to them now when they tell me I’m beautiful. I realized recently my husband never ever says things like that to me, only passerby, and it started sinking in how sad it made me. Often. Now I just think about moving on to the next chapter. Sad that it comes to that. I don’t want particularly to be alone but it beats being married and lonely I think now. Sadly.