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Maja
Met online started messaging and moved to phone calls and it’s been great laugh and was very excited for our upcoming date. Then came the how tall are you question and I’m quite tall for a woman but still mostly no problem to find men taller but he only about reaches my height… That’s if he told the truth and now I’m having doubts about the whole date. I don’t want to be too superficial but I do want my men to be taller than me if only even slightly… What do you ladies think and are/have some of you tried dating shorter man or is it also no go for you?
Miss_Aspiring
Is it so important to you that this is a deal breaker?
I’ve dated a couple of short guys, and I agree it’s a turnoff (though, they were also jerks, so that contributed). It’s really up to you. Wouldn’t hurt to meet once and see if there’s attraction, but if height is super important to you then perhaps you’ve already made up your mind.
Maja
Miss_Aspiring
I always thought he has to be taller but right now just thinking I’m having second thoughts. I’m just wandering if I’m superficial and maybe wanting to let go of potentially good guy or potentially good future guys because of something irrelevant to the quality of the relationship.
So I wanted to hear others opinions and experiences before I properly make up my mind
But you might be right it might not hurt to just meet first and see if there is attraction.Options2
Well. Physically chemistry last for life too. That is the mysterious part that no one can explain or deny.
Sometimes, it is the height, the look, the smile or the voice. That ties our desire to be close to someone. You never know… Go find out what else he has to offer …
I never like big guy… Then I met him… As of today, he still has a piece of my heart. That feeling will never go away…
Miss_Aspiring
I say meet up with him and see how it goes. Keep your expectations low… might be attraction, or might just be a nice conversation. If you aren’t interested, no need to see him again.
Just don’t wear high heels ;)
Boog
I think you should meet him. I have always been attracted to taller guys, but I met my boyfriend online and he is 5’5″ and I’m 5’4″. I almost always wear heels, which means I’m almost always a little bit taller than him. I felt kind of weird about it at first, but it doesn’t bother me at all now. I love how we look in pictures together–to me, it looks like we are appropriately matched. And my favorite thing is how we fit together physically when we cuddle. I’ve never been so comfortable cuddling with someone who was taller than me. I honestly can say that I wouldn’t change his size even if I could.
If you find that you are attracted to many different things about him, you might be surprised by how little his height matters. The only way you’ll find out is by meeting him in person!
Maria
If you are really tall though and he is your height then he is not short is he?
Whether it is important or not and how important is very subjective. Do not lie to yourself though. Superficial or not, if it is important to you, then it can spoil tings for you in the future.
Maria
And of course there is no harm in meeting him for a short coffee date.
LL
You’re being too nice! dont waste your time lying to yourself. attraction IS superficial!!!
Me personally, I can’t do the short men. I just can’t. I’m barely 5’1 but my boyfriend is 5’10 and that is perfect to me.
Rose
For me height was not an issue until I started dating tall men. OMG! Lol
Now I don’t want him to be 6’2 like my last love but at least taller than me cause I’m only 5’4 and a man that size, I dunno.
I don’t want to be superficial but it feels so good to be in the arms of someone taller.
Teri
OMG this is a great post.
I’m 5’1″ and always liked my men taller than 5’9. All my life I hid or ran from anyone less than 5’9′.
Until recently I met a guy at match (last year actually) and when in person he was like only 2feet taller and I was like OH HECK NO!!Well to my surprise there are a lot of advantages of a not so tall guy one of which is the closeness when making love you can literally be head to head…..no pun intended. Also when he came over he likes to slow dance w me and for the first time I was able to do so ‘cheek to cheek’ and it felt great. I totally lowered that bar going forward.
Now I look for flatter stomach’s, muscle tone and he doesn’t have to be 5″9 as long as his package fits mine – which it always does on the shorter guys.
I’d say height is important and not superficial. You can’t help but like what you like however if they can get the job done just as fine and your comfortable in their presence its not the end of the world. Meet him in person and see how that fits first before you decide to just throw it away.
Tia
I am 6’1″. My current guy is my height, maybe a smidge shorter. It doesn’t bother me as long as it doesn’t bother him and as long as he doesn’t try to dictate what shoes I can and cannot wear.
I am not going to wear flats to appease some man’s ego.
Maja
All of you ladies thank you so much for your responses and opinions/stories!
I have decided to go with the date and meet him first and who knows maybe it really won’t bother me as much if there’s chemistry and other things. But you ladies are right I won’t know until I give it a go and no harm in one date.And Tia – wow I admire your confidence girl! I don’t know if I’d be comfortable with heels but who knows maybe someday ;)
Jordan
Hi I’m in the same situation just now and wondered did you go on the date ? How did it go ? (Don’t know how long ago this was posted)
anon
Two year old post Jordan
kelly
Yeaaah, I’m 5’2.5″ and I went out on a few dates with men a little shorter than me, it was disconcerting, honestly. I know its something you cant help at all, but you shouldn’t lie and say you’re 5’6″ when you’re obviously barely hitting 5’2″. I also went out with a guy who said he was 6’4″ when he was more like a good 6’6″ or taller. I felt like his kid on this date!! My current BF is 6’3″, which is as tall as a guy can get for me, and still be in the perfect hugging height range. 5’10” to 6’3″ :)
K8
Ha old post, but very interesting
I have dated 2 “short” guys before for just a few months each – essentially they were about the same height as me – 5 ft 7. I hated it. Said I would never date someone who isnt several inches taller. I really like tall guys.
Then I met a guy a few months ago – Instant attraction, physically and mentally (we get on so well and have tons in common). Now this relationship, if it even is that, is going slow (thats a discussion post on its own), but Im not going to dismiss this connection because of his height. Im not sure exactly how tall he is, my height or an inch or two taller. We have kissed twice, and its going to get some getting used to with the height (different angles and such compared to what Im used to)
To anyone with a similar issue – go on the date. Looks are important as we need to be attracted to our partners, but remember, noone is perfect, and you wouldnt want someone you like to judge you based on something so superficial and really not that important
Janet
Always went for taller guys until my fiance now. I am 5’4″ and so is he. I won;t wear heels with him just because I don’t want to be 4″ taller than him. But, he is an amazing man, loving, honest, funny! I wouldn’t trade him for anything on earth. 2 years strong and getting married next year!
Prairiegirl
Yes Rose I agree! My first husband (married 42 years ) was super short, I mean he was shorter than me and I am 5’4″ He hardly ever put his arms around me as his arms were so short (and I was not big.)
My 2nd hubby is 6′ tall. I love being enveloped in his long strong arms.
I am not putting down short men or women who love them..it’s just that
My first husband was very abusive and I decided that if I ever wanted a realtionship with another man, he would have certain attributes, like being kind and being tall!
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