When He Pulls Away and Comes Back Again….

@shiny – I think it depends on whether or not you are exclusive. If you’re in a relationship and he needs space, most guys take like a few days or some longer but they are still in communication with the you. If you are casually dating and you are okay with that and never discussed DTR then chances are he’s casually dating others. Guys that are in relationships can go lengths of space for a week or two. That’s a tad long for me but I know some people are ok with it. I think the OP is in a relationship where distancing himself/herself is very healthy for a short amount of time.

I will be the first to admit that when my guy said he needed space, I freaked the hell out! We didn’t speak for three weeks because we were feeling so smoothered by each other. I didn’t know what would happen during those three weeks, but it gave us both time to ourselves and it just felt amazing!

As scary as space sounds sometimes, it’s necessary for a relationship to breathe! Like most of you have said, let the guy retreat for a bit and then come back and if you need to do the same, do it. Not everyone needs to do this but don’t feel terrible if you do. Everyone needs some alone time at some point, and I know for a fact that you’ll feel better afterwards.

Hi, I’ve come across with this behaviour before and like many other women I did lots of mistakes with such phenomenon. After few years when I start studying psychology myself I can say that it’s absolutely normal for men and women to pull away after being very intimate. Don’t freck out or grow angry, it’s not about you it’s all about him. Woman grow closer from being super close and intimate, men in other hand when being distant. Once he pulls away and see that woman is Coll about it he will come back. Don’t let him jump back right where he left, let him know that his pulling away is not nutmal, but communicate your feelings in non judgment way. For instance, instead of lashing out and start with accusations, just reply to his text accurately, say something “Hey there I hope all is well with you. I’m so happy to hear from you! And leave it at that. Let him work for your attention. The more he will be pulling away there more you should take time to respond. He has to know that his actions is not acceptable and is not welcoming in any way. I’d advise if he pulls away more than 3 times in a period of 6 months just end the relationship, it’s more likely that he is juggling between 2 relationship all together.