When he says he wants to keep it casual

Jennie, ‘you’ aren’t the problem but if you’re not even exclusive then you’re also not the one for him. A man who wants YOU in some sense will lock you down somehow – as an exclusive FWB, as a girlfriend.

Go find someone who won’t leave you in any doubt about whether they want you – you’ll know it when you feel it.

how can anyone here can answer you? how can anyone here know whether your friend is saying no to a relationship with you or no to a relationship with all?? and does that really matter? he has said clearly he doesn’t want a relationship with you. period. if you want to causally dates him that’s up to you. but if your casually dating him with the hope of him getting serious then your letting yourself in for a disappointment since hes already told no to a relationship.

That’s the problem with guys, they don’t have the courage to straight up tell us like it is.
I’m fine with dating him casually if that’s the only way I can have him, it’s better than not having him at all, but the problem is if I am the problem then that means he’s just looking for the right girl for him and I’m just a ”play thing”, so as soon as he finds ”THE ONE” he’ll dump me. Or it could be that he really doesn’t want commitment to anyone right now and we can keep our thing going.

The answer is no, you’re not the problem he just doesn’t see or envision anything with you beyond what you have NOW and that’s the nuts and bolts of it.

Why does he not see you in a different way? Because you don’t possess the IT factor—those tangible (physical) AND intangible (energy she exudes) that makes a man’s stomach flutter and go ga ga for a woman. You possess IT for another guy but not this one and that’s just the way nature designed us. It’s a complex internal chemistry (hormonal) sort of thing where its there for none (neither are feeling it); one (a crush) or both (potential for love to develop). Only when it happens to BOTH parties is there a good chance of a relationship culminating from those feelings but he doesn’t feel them the way you do so this is called A CRUSH or unrequited love where one party is getting those chemical signals but the other is not.

Think about a guy who was smitten with you but you weren’t smitten with him. It had nothing to with him personally as he could be really cool, nice, and have other positive attributes that you like BUT he doesn’t possess the IT factor and there is nothing he can say or do to change how you feel…same concept. So at least you know he will dump you for someone else so don’t be angry, shocked or mad when he does as it will be a good thing so you can finally end your crush and hopefully find someone who can reciprocate those feelings for you the way you do him.