When he says ‘missing you, missing the intimacy’ what does he mean by it?

Honeypie that’s prefect, I will if he gets in touch.

I asked him, ‘where do you want us to go from here?
Yesterday afternoon reply to his ‘I still want you’ I have not heard from him since.

So I will ask him that exactly how you’ve written.
Many thanks x

Good, but don’t believe him immediately. He first tried to get you for sex only. Then when it didn’t work out, he thought about things, and now offering you a “label”. Understand that labels are imaginary. They can go POOF immediately. Make him work for getting you back.

When he broke up with you it was not on an impulse. Unless he is has anger management issues and no control over what he says whatsoever. In his head those thoughts were already floating for a while.

Now he asked you back, but 2 weeks later, he’d start “pulling away”, hot and cold, etc.

When someone throws you away that easily, you don’t take them back easily. Unless of course you have low self value. Remember he first tried to get you for sex only ! there was absolutely no confusion there, it was only in your mind, due to wishful thinking, it was very clear to everyone here who commented that this is what he was asking for. And then when you did not give in, he upped his game. But I seriously, seriously, doubt he means it. You are wasting your time on this dude. If you don’t want to waste your time, make him prove it to you that he means business. Make him wait and work for you. Court you, do not date others, put efforts – without any promises on your part. He threw you out once!

Ignore him if you want him.

This is your reply at 3:26-

“Fair enough isis.
I never saw it that way but I will make it clear that FWB is not and will never be on the cards.
And I won’t offer friendship again but he says he doesn’t want me back as GF.”

So, I also read it that he doesn’t want you as a girlfriend. I agree he only upped his game. Not gonna last.

Hi Apple.

I’ve been in this situation before where I dated a guy and after several months of dating he didn’t want a relationship. Anyway, I ghosted him and after a year, yes a year, he texted me saying he missed me and wants me back. I thought maybe this time it will eb different but no, I think he missed having access to me. He also wants what he can’t have because I moved on. I think this is your situation right now. You said you wanted a relationship so if you do and he doesn’t, I think you need to cut ties with him. Yes it seems like you’re making excuses why he’s acting this way and that, it’s fine you like him a lot but it’s better in the long run to cut ties while being hurt now and getting better afterwards than being with him and getting hurt over and over again.

Oh good grief, posters on here are so clueless. It’s like the blind leading the blind. All relationships are built on communication, trust and respect. If an ex contacts you, and sais he misses you, and you’re unsure what he means, ask. Have a conversation. Figure it out. None of this you may not be friends because he will hear FWB (that’s bs), none of this play games and ignore him, none of this play hard to get and make him earn it. You both made mistakes. You both are to blame for the breakup. You both still want to be together. So sit down, talk about what went wrong, come to an agreement on how to fix it, and then do it