When I compliment him….

Thanks Zen – I was not trying to get something alike in return…

For example, I told him that my dog said hi and my dog thinks he is a nice dude…..

Nothing back…..

Hmm… like kimf said could be personality. If he doesn’t respond then I wouldn’t keep giving them, just appreciate

Hi Im actually wondering why you care when its a guy you only speak to or text. Have u not met him yet and why not and how long have u been in contact ? x

Ugh, it is hard to mind read.

Maybe like you ladies said, my text was a hard one to respond too. My take away, anyway, is when in doubt (of his interest level), don’t do anything or say anything, and wait to see what he does next?????

Dating is hard. lol

I’ve been through that before, it was so frustrating because I only complimented on his musical talent, it was so weird that whenever he showed me a new song he wrote and I told him that he was so talented, that jerk would just ignore my texts. Until one day he said to me that he hated compliments… He wanted to know if the song was good but he didn’t like to hear that he was talented because he believes he is not good enough. In the end I found out he was a really troubled person struggling with low self steem, so the compliments were perceived as a lie, that I was mocking him or expecting something in return and he would never be able to please my expectations. So whenever I told him anything about him being talented, it triggered him and he would shut down and go silent on texts or in person.
My advice is to not compliment guys directly, I mean instead of saying ‘you’re so talented’ or whatever, just tell him ‘your music made me happy’ ‘I enjoyed this drawing’ etc, don’t focus on him, this way doesn’t put much pressure on the guy. Don’t give compliments out of the blue or too frequent, don’t let them know you think they are awesome or nice, is best to keep them on the edge. Throw a bone sometimes so they keep hoping you’re attracted but don’t stroke their ego. It always backfire if you give too many compliments, guys should be giving you compliments instead!!
I think that people who can’t deal with compliments are no fun to have a relationship, I stay away from them nowadays, but if you can handle being ignored, if you like that rude unpleasant silence instead of the person being nice and say ‘thanks’, go for it.

Patsytshirt is right on point,some men especially ones with low-self-esteem will think
you are mocking or even lying to them when you praise or give them a compliment. These are the ones who are way too complicated to even bother having a relationship with.

patsytshirt,

My brother is a musician. He explained to me that as much as they like being recognized for their talent by their girlfriends they feel uncomfortable when they make a big deal out of it because makes them feel like they’re with a groupie, they can bang a groupie any day but they want their girlfriends to like them because of who they are not for what they do.

Mine isn’t a reply….

I dated this guy for 15y share 4 kids together we broke up 10 weeks ago within the first eight weeks he hooked up with someone new he complaints about this new chick”girlfriend” saying she’s annoying him but his told her to learn her place now,he borrowing money off of me all the time the kids and i have seen him the last three days as he doesn’t like to travel to the new chick all the time so I got him to get the kids and myself lunch and he messed up the order and ended up having lunch with us at our house later that night i sent him a text saying…
“Hey, I just watched some of season 10 of supernatural. It reminded me of you. I actually had a smile on my face. :)
I am so glad you told me about the Netflix . Thanks :)”
he did reply…”Thats ok how did it remind you of me” so I told him… “It reminded me of you and how we used to watch it together”
no reply from him at all.
Am i becoming the creepy ex girlfriend or am i missing something….!!
Thoughts anyone

Why,

My boyfriend doesn’t really know how to take a compliment either. So usually if I text him something telling him how amazing he is or how lucky I am to have him then he comes back with no, you’re the amazing one or I’m the lucky one. Or if I talk about how hot or sexy he is then he’ll either say something like are you sure you sent that to the right guy or just send a smiley face back. It’s even worse when I try to compliment him in person. He’ll either try to ignore me or he’ll just smile. I think most guys, (who aren’t narcissists or conceited) don’t know how to take a compliment. Since this guy isn’t even your boyfriend I’m sure it’s more awkward for him. Although if I had gotten your text I probably would have replied well tell your dog I said hi and he’s nice too or something silly like that. Of course he could also have been in the middle of something and unavailable to reply. Just make sure you’re not always the one initiating.

Kimmy,

You’ll get more responses if you start your own thread, but I think your last text back didn’t warrant a response. He asked how it reminded you of him and you told him. I’m sure your response made him think you miss doing those kinds of things with him and he may not have known what to say to that or he could have been with his new girlfriend and couldn’t reply.

I’m exactly on the same boat, I know I’m late to this forum but I had to Google something similar because a guy that I like doesn’t take compliments very well either haha.
Dating is hard, mostly when you actually like someone and you’re trying not to mess up.

How did it go with your guy?

I had the same case with a guy, but in my case it was because he wasn’t interested and not that into me so he would not respond to any compliments.

In my case, he usually compliments me about my hair, he says I smell good, or that I’m pretty, etc. When I say it to him in front of him he says “really?” Or gets shy, he seems insecure. I met him a little over a month, it seemed to be an instant connection (those that rarely happen) he has told me he’s very shy and has issues socializing, he gets nervous when he’s with me. I even asked him if he feels intimidated. I want him to open up more to me but I don’t want to scare him away so I give him space.