When I compliment him….

I have this coworker friend at work that I was interested in. I messaged him to say he usually looks good but was looking really good in his new suit. He did not respond which I consider very rude. It annoyed me because a simple thank you should have been good enough. This is the second time I will ever compliment him on his looks and the first time was like a month ago! It felt like a slap in the face! Of course, I am reading that he is not interested in me but it does not make it less annoying.

I do have a crush on him and will like to know him better but it was actually genuine as I don’t usually see him in a suit. I am a naturally shy person so it took a lot of courage for me to compliment him and I messaged it instead of saying it in person. I am usually effusive with compliments for my female friends but shy with guys. I wont be complimenting him again but was the compliment OTT or should I read it as ‘I am not interested in you’ and move on?

Comments please.

Crade

I didn’t think of it that way! This crush is making me do silly and embarrassing things! We have been friends for about a year. Actually he was giving me flirty looks and smiles for a while at the beginning but I was too shy to return it so he stopped. Also I was new then so I was reserved. Over the months I got to like him a lot and we exchange work banter and he talks about his family but never about girlfriends. My contract is ending soon so I will be leaving. As I am not able to flirt physically due to shyness I thought I should be more expressive at least on messenger so he will know for sure that I like him in case he was still interested. I sometimes suspect he may be shy (I may be wrong) and of course concerned about workplace rules as they are harsher on men. Maybe these are just convenient thoughts. LOL. I won’t message him again. Whatever happens happens. I do like him very much. Never felt this way about a guy before! I think he is pretty cool. You can’t make someone like you if they don’t.

No please don’t hit on him again! You already tried that and it didn’t work. Any more than once if he’s a colleague could be seen as sexual harassment.

Imagine if it was a work colleague sending you texts like that and you weren’t interested? It would get creepy after a while.

Him not responding is a message in itself. He would have replied right back if he was interested. There’s no question.

I’m sorry!

Is it worth apologising to just clear the air so we don’t both feel awkward around each other. I feel very ashamed now. I didn’t think it could be described as a hit. My judgement is so faulty. I truly need to move on from this crush. BTW -He recently complimented me on my dressing too but maybe mine was OTT.

Thank you. I shall start working on my broken heart! 😂

There’s this guy, he’s super talented when it comes to his work his presenting skills are great. Anyway people complement him and he looks at them and says “thanks”. But when I say “that’s cool” or “looks great” and he avoids eye contact and doesn’t say anything.
Did I annoy him?

It’s because it triggers feel good emotion & to a lot of men this actually scares the sh*t out of them… even though they like it. So they just don’t respond bc its just easier than possibly feeling any more at that time. They don’t want to get attached & need you & when you compliment them it automatically triggers them to want more. They hate that & try to avoid it as much as possible. Some men… more macho types I guess.