Why a guy will sleep with you but not date you?

I don’t agree with that advice, I was talking to a guy a while before I started dating my bc , he was very clear that he just want sex , wasn’t just me but with any girl. He didn’t want a relationship at this point in his life.
Could be he’s just not ready

It can be anything …. Personality, finance, location, timing …. Anything

In a guys mind, wanting sex has nothing to do w liking a person….

To me, your question is like oh, he likes to seafood, why does he like to wear white shirt?

I’m in the same situation right now and confused also. He said he’s liked me for years but wants to keep things casual and see if it evolves. I also don’t do hook ups so I don’t know if he’s telling me what I want to hear some days. He seems to be putting in a lot of effort for something that is just that but guys like a chase. Maybe I’m just s conquest. Some days he texts me all day other times I don’t hear from him for a day or 2. I don’t understand it either.

A man doesn’t want a relationship with every woman that he is attracted to. And it doesn’t meant that something is wrong with you. It just means he is not the right guy for you, cause the right man for you would want a relationship.

Hi Leah,
Personally i do not believe that a guy will sleep with any girl so yes he does feel physically attracted or have a connection but which is solely physical.

However, please do not confuse this with any sort of his longing to date you. Physical attraction is always the first step to become interested in someone.From there it can lead to either ways to wanting more than from you or not. It does definitely i believe in some way not completely depend on your responses to him. Other factors like where he is in his life plays the major role!

So i would say if he is being upfront in telling you he doesn’t want to date you but want to sleep with you, walk away after saying him that’s not what you want from him.

I have always seen that men always come around in some time if they are really interested to give you what you want. And if he doesn’t then there’s always a next guy!

Thanks for the feedback. The thing that was kind of strange about is he seemed pretty forward and upfront about saying it even though we haven’t been in touch for a while. I guess i just found it a little weird he had decided he wanted to sleep with me without really even getting to know me now as a person.

I realize if someone doesn’t want a relationship period then that is fair enough, but this guy does date people he likes enough to date. We get on well, at least i thought we did, and accompanied by telling me he has a crush, unless of course this is a lie, i guess i just found it all a bit mind baffling, but i guess sometimes we don’t ever really get answers to things we wonder about.

We have a lot of similar interests etc…so unless there is some aspect of my personality that he doesn’t like that i don’t know about, i just don’t really understand him. I told him i cared about staying friends though, because i really do care deeply for my friends, and i asked him if he wanted to stay friends to which he never replied back to me. Some guys are just something else.

Have you not ever met a guy who was totally hot and buff that you were incredibly attracted to him but his personality was lacking considerably? Maybe he was hung up on himself because he knew he was attractive or maybe all he ever talked about was going to the gym and working out and protein shakes. I dated a really good looking physically hot football player in high school for a little while only to find out he was dumb as a brick and couldn’t carry on a decent conversation. I’ve also dated the attractive intellectual type who didn’t know how to not be so uptight or have a good time and goof around. Neither fit my personality but they were hot enough I wanted to sleep with them. What’s so hard to understand? There is something about you he doesn’t see as relationship material. I can think of lots of people I get along with, have a good time and I’m attracted to but for one reason or another they don’t meet enough of my requirements for having a long term relationship.