Why am I getting guys who just want sex and no relationships?

Finding out within a couple dates that these guys are only looking for sex or aren’t ready for a relationship is a blessing, even if you’re feeling deeply frustrated about it. It’s easy to lose sight of, but it really, really is best to know they’re not looking for the same thing as you as early as possible.

As you get older, there are fewer people left in the dating pool who want a solid commitment, because many have already found it if they want it. But it’s certainly not impossible! However, because there are more “single for a reason” people around than not after a certain point, it’s common to have runs where you’re only meeting bad matches. So in that respect, what you’re experiencing is normal and requires continuing to play the numbers game and put yourself out there until you meet a better fit.

If you’re looking for something you can “do,” you can introspect and figure out if you’re more attracted to unavailable guys and rejecting / sending standoffish signals to those who are more relationship-minded. It doesn’t sound outright like that’s what’s going on here to me, but sometimes an attraction to less committed men isn’t conscious. You do need to be honest with yourself about it if you think it may be an issue, though.

It still sounds to me like it’s just the tediousness of dating older, especially during a pandemic which makes nothing easier, and having to meet a lot of frogs with good guys occasionally interspersed in there. Don’t fall into a scarcity mentality, there are still good guys out there and if you’re not wasting your time on the unavailable ones then you’re doing what you should be. If you’re getting too frustrated, take a dating break and get back to it when you have more patience for bad dates as you strive for the better and more enjoyable ones.

its the same with me as well. the boring ones want a relationship. the interesting ones just seem to want sex and after just 1 meeting!