Why am I so terrible at dating

It’s not just you. Lots of people are terrible at dating.

“I cant understand how other people manage to get girlfriends of have sex”

Getting into a relationship requires ongoing effort on both parts to connect and cultivate a relationship. That doesn’t happen within two dates.

I won’t advise you on how to “get sex” if that’s all that interests you since most women try to avoid those types of men.

What do you talk about on dates? First of all, it seems like your confidence is lacking. You’re already starting out with the mind set that you’ll fail. How old are you and what is your educational/career background? No offense but your grammar is lacking a bit. If your texting/conversational style is similar to your post, then you might want to consider polishing that up. People take poor grammar in texting as a sign of laziness…Working on improving yourself (not focusing on having sex with women) might help. Your friends don’t sound like very nice friends if they put you down like that. And they might be embellishing their own “success with women”

Maybe gain some confidence… And stop listening to other people. Think for yourself.

You have two options

1) If getting a gf is a major/foremost goal in your life, then grow thick skin, and lower your expectations (not hope) for getting a gf. Rejection is inevitable for anyone so why take it personally? For all you know, you might be coming off bitter because of your struggles. It can be very unappealing. Equanimity is attractive. If you’re getting to first dates, be grateful. Some people can’t even get that for various reasons.

What’s your best physical/personality trait? Because there is someone out there for whom it’s not good enough. And might even be a dealbreaker. Not trying to demoralize you but showing you how vain it is to care what others think. If you can’t flirt, then that’s who you are. Nothing so wrong with it. There are women out there who will find it endearing that you can’t flirt or run out of things to say. Maybe some have had their share of smooth flirts and wordsmiths and been burned by them. You would come off as more sincere and safe in comparison. Can’t think of things to talk about? You’re trying too hard. There’s no obligation. Bouts of silence are lovely. In fact I could never be with someone who found silence awkward. I love conversation too but can we just shut up for several minutes and hold hands while looking through these beautiful trees at that… doggo taking a big dump. And now it’s making eye contact with us. Oh god. Okay think of something to say fast change the topic uhhh. What umm do you think about… bidets.

2) Personal favorite. Idenfity and develop at least a few passions, interests, values, goals in your life that don’t revolve around nor are influenced by sex/women. Meaning, do those things for other reasons. Hopefully good reasons. Try to be a better person for -you-. For a change meet people/women not to get something from them but do something for them while wanting nothing in return. It’s a law of several things in life: the less you chase something, the less elusive it becomes.