Why "Babe" after one date?!

Hi,

I don’t like fast pet names either….makes me wonder if they remember my name….

If I have been with someone a year or two it is fine….

Thank you ladies for the advice.. I feel like you all are just confirming what I felt was the reasoning to begin with. I had asked a girlfriend today and she also said it was weird and off putting.

I feel like I severely offended this third guy.. but I guess time will tell. I just don’t get why rush into such a thing. Rose -I’ve also had this happened once before with a guy who was a total player (I wasn’t aware at the time and it was kind of a tactic I think he pulled on any girl who’d buy into it).. that’s why I’m like WHY?!?! And the men that were serious also didn’t rush into such a thing. –I appreciated that tidbit of advice.

This is kind of a bummer. But I really appreciate the input.

dating. …not daring.

these online guys email dozen, hundreds of chicks. It’s hard to remember all their names, so they call babe, sugar, honey because it’s safer than call you by the wrong name.
I remember a guy who started calling me ‘beautiful’ in another language, it was hilarious, I instantly figured out that he was confusing me with another girl from another country who spoke a similar language. I asked him ‘oh do you speak X language? very cool, I understand what you said because I speak a similar language”. He apologized and realized that he made a fool of himself, later I found out he was chatting with another girl who spoke that language.

My experience is that they are players. The two I experienced who did that called all their women the same pet names. It makes it easy so they don’t have to remember who they are texting…

Any man I got serious with held off on pet names until we were more established.

If you lose your name and gain a generic pet name after a few dates, you definitely have a player on your hands.

O.K. first off, it is very judgmental and unfair to assume that this guy has ulterior motives in calling someone “Babe”. There could be a number of reasons for this including thinking you like it, just trying to be romantic to actually not even realizing he is doing it. When you called him out, he probably felt stupid firstly. When you feel stupid, many times you pull away from embarrassment. You seem to have a strong personality that perhaps this particular guy ins’t compatible with. Here is the thing, women do the same thing. I have women that I just meet online calling me babe or honey after 12 hours! Women are no different. It is just humans and sometimes we create things in our minds. Overall, it is a bit weird which is why I am here researching the topic but almost everyone here is calling him out to be a player or fake. Seriously, I know for a fact that a lot of good men just are awkward in relationships and have no ill intent when doing this as well as women. Think about how many times BOTH parties use these names after one date and never think anything of it. I also think far less men than you think call women “Babe” because so they don’t confuse names lol If you let a guy get this far without realizing he is a phony then you need to tune up your radar. Seek the good in people, the guy probably isn’t your type in the long ru, don’t try to change who he is after one date :) Live, Love, Prosper!

I’m sorry, I don’t think it’s respectful to call someone you don’t know very well pet names. Especially if you’ve only been out with someone a couple of times.

I think it’s demeaning. I actually once told a coworker who was younger than me who kept calling me “hun” that I don’t like it. And she was female. She would NOT LET IT GO. She would do it “by accident” and then be like, “oh yeah, you think that’s demeaning.” I would laugh it off because I felt like I was being unreasonable, but at the same time I felt resentful that my wishes about that weren’t being respected.

If you are in an intimate committed relationship with someone, that’s when pet names are okay.

Shannon,

I doubt very much she is trying to be demeaning. Most likely it is just a habit, hense her difficulty not doing it. I can understand why it annoys you, but her motives you have no idea about and unlikely she is purposefully trying to annoy you.

My first boyfriend used to call me babe. Turns out he was calling other women babe at the same time! I’ve always been suspicious ever since.

But Joe give her a chance. I call people darling all the time. Anyone I’m fond of, male, female, old, young. My friend calls everyone honey in the same way.

Your lady may be shady or it may just be her term of endearment. Men never call a male friend or family member honey or babe, so maybe that’s different? If she really likes you and there’s something good between you, she’ll find a personal pet name for you in time.

I personally think everyone is reading too much into this.

There are some people who are brought up differently and use pet names even for complete strangers! I happen to be one of them and I find it interesting how some appear to be offended and others don’t blink and eye. I have a variety of customers from all ages and locations and find those raised in certain areas, such as the northeast (like I was) are more apt to use pet names than those raised on the west coast.

I often use “Hun” (short for honey) and sometimes others such as “dear”, “kiddo”, “sweetie” sir”, “maam”—even for those I do know the names of so its not corollary. Its more out of habit for those who use them and don’t even realize how it may come across to others who aren’t use to being addressed in that manner. I remember some of my customers giving me a weird face when I used it on them for the first time but soon realized it was just how I addressed people in general, whereas most of them adopted a pet name from me too such as ‘babe’, “sweetie”, “beautiful”, “darling” lol

Today so many words have lost their root meaning, such as “babe” which use to mean “a baby”. Overtime it has been lost in translation and is used to address any gender for any purpose: sweet, pretty, handsome, nice—in a nutshell, it means someone you really like.

Cos he’s lazy & can’t remember your name…