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Emma
I am with Hannah, I think it is different for men and women. How many men in real life call you “sweetie”, “sweetheart”, “honey” etc? Lets use our common sense, this is a read flag. Call all women “babes” makes it easier.
Would you feel comfortable calling someone you just met “hun”? I am sure most normal people won’t. It is different with waitresses, they do it to avoid calling you “sir” and “maam” and to emphasize friendliness. This is a very different situation.
Lane
I’m sorry Jan but there’s a lot of things I don’t like but I don’t put up a huge stink and just allow people to be who they are. I find those who are negative in general to be less approachable, friendly or nice…so be negative however I don’t feel compelled to make such a stink over something so trivial.
Again, in the grand scheme of life I prefer to address people in a friendly manner and if they have an issue with it they can politely request that I stop if it offends them so much. Thankfully I’ve not had any complaints, in fact majority of my business reviews speak directly to the ‘friendliness’ they’ve encountered and/or have quote “made new friends” so in my opinion, and based on my personal experience, your in the low minority of those who are offended by friendly people.
I’m not saying its cool or right to call someone “babe” in all your interactions with someone you hardly know and just dating as I personally only reserve that kind of pet name for someone I’m in a romantic relationship with. Honestly I haven’t come across this type of man the OP is addressing but then again I don’t build connections with my phone, use texting primarily for logistics and if the man isn’t planning consistent dates then they simply won’t have the opportunity to call me “babe”.
redcurleysue
Stephen,
You want to go back to the days where women cooked and sewed and did not earn money.
There were some good things with women who stayed home – that is true…but there also was a big dark side for some of them. Some women were beaten and did not have resources to leave, some did not have any clue what their finances were when their spouse died and they were left penniless, and other dark things.
So to look at the past as some rosy picture does not give it justice. Times have changed, roles have changed, and power is being more equally distributed. Hopefully in the end it will be for the better for all.
Kathy
Stephen, You are equating feminism with equality. Women are now demanding the respect that once was denied to them in the past. Of course not all men like it.. They enjoyed having the upper hand. We might have become ‘cynical’ as you say, due to the huge imbalance in power that existed. We’re not trying to get power in our dating life, just equality and respect.
It is due to the treatment that women have gotten in the past that we are overly careful of how men talk to us.. We’re just trying to avoid the players. If men are now becoming cynical… Well, they need to look at how much they tried to keep the seesaw imbalanced so that things could stay the status quo..
This is not all men, but enough bad apples can spoil the dating atmosphere for everyone. I agree, people are having trouble dating on both ends. But I do believe that more men try to take advantage of women, than vice versa.
Hannah
Stephen you talk about feminism as if it’s a bad thing. I’m going to tell you about my great grandparents. So 4 sets if them…
One married a man at 19 when she got pregnant. Turns out he was married to 6 other women.
One got pregnant out of wedlock at 27. Had to give her child away because the man wouldn’t marry her and she couldn’t support it.
One had a lovely, normal life with a man she cared for.
One married a man who beat her and her children daily. He decided to live with another woman. It was the best day of her life when he left and the abuse stopped.
That’s the reality of the “golden ages”. Loads of miserable woman, loads of messed up children being brought up by miserable women and loads of miserable men because they were stuck in marriages they hated.
Amanda
I like being called pet names by anyone, it’s sweet. And if you don’t like it, just get over it. It doesn’t hurt anyone. Seriously spend time worrying about what matters, like when people insult you or say disrespectful things. What a waste of time to get annoyed that you don’t like someone’s attempt at being nice.
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