Why did my ex apologise? Is there mixed signal here?

In my honest opinion it doesn’t seem like he wants to get back together. I think he just wanted to clear the air and apologise. He might want to stay friends or just make sure that things aren’t awkward between the two of you.

I would suggest leaving him be for now. If you continue to msg him too much or harp on over what was said trying to get clarity, you might find that he will start distancing himself again.

Growing up can be painful

He’s moving on, he’s not considering a get back together, he’s finalising the finish, it’s time to let go and move on, don’t give yourself false hope, be kind to yourself and get over this man. I’m trying to do the same right now, your not alone xxx

I agree with others, he keeps talking about moving on. However, this does not mean that in 1-2 months he won’t change his mind. For that to happen, you need to stop all contact with him. Stop texting and messaging. Make him miss you. Make him remember only the good things. Stop being available. If he wants to give it another try, he will contact you later on. There is this very useful ebook by Andrew Aitken, Beyond the breakup, I highly recommend it. With some exceptions, where he says exes should never get back together, most things there are spot on. He does a very good job dissecting the post-breakup situations. It is written specifically for women who got dumped. There is also a website ex boyfriend recovery by Chris something. Chris is the opposite of Andrew, and that’s why it is useful to read them both. Chris things that it is almost always possible to get your ex back. The techniques both recommend overlap, so you’d know which one to use for sure. No contact is one of them. No sex with your ex if you start being friends some time later.

You are now pursuing him, he feels it, and this is not what you need. You need to make him nostalgic, miss you, and for that, you need to bet cut out of his life. YOU need to do that, do not wait for him to do that. So do not reply, do not message, no social media, nothing. Only this way there is a chance, after some time, that he would be open to restart things. But you should not hope for that, you should be ready for things to be over.

Thanks all for the interpretation! :)

I am keeping an open mind, and I’m not surprised when you girls said he is telling me that it’s over. I thought of it in both ways, and is staying calm over the exact message in it.

I understand that most of you mentioned not to contact him. I have not after that last message. I will see how it goes in the future.

So I’m assuming he is apologizing cuz he wants to feel less guilty? And it’s not an actual sincere apology? :/

You are not listening to anything he has said. You are “keeping an open mind”? I am not trying to be mean, but when he starts seeing someone else, it’s really going to hurt.

Because he has explained it’s over by telling you that you both are moving on (as in not with one another.

As said above, if he was interested in getting back together, this is not what he would say. He would tell you he wanted to work through things with you, that he wants you back in his life (as a GF not friend), and that he wants you to be together.

You’ve wasted 4 months pining for this guy when you could have healed and been ready for someone new who wants you.

How long are you going to torture yourself? That is all you are doing, because he isn’t coming back.

You arent alone, my ex also called me after 3 months of breakup. He says sorry and apologize for thinga that he did to me, he says he misses me n hope am okay after the break up. I was shocked when he calls…he used private number and my reaction just kinda cool *cos i have no idea gow shud i react* i tried not to talk about the past, just how are u? how’s ur pets? and also say sorry if i hurt him too. Actually i miss him so much, but i dont let him know…and believe it or not i really want to finish the conversation asap…cos its too much for me even the conversation was light. He asked about my work, my fam, say sorry because he is trying to cut his tense about us. At the end i got distraction from my colleague and we ended the conv by saying take care to each other. It’s sad, but i believe to love someone doesnt mean to belong to each other. If we are meant to be together love will finds a way…keep happy btw :)

This was simply his final goodbye. Be grateful he was man enough to own his part and apologize for it. This was your closure. He won’t be getting back with you. Sorry.

it sounds like he is really moving on and he doesn’t want to lead you in getting back together in any way. the best way is to really go no contact with him.

He definitely does not want to get back together. It takes a very kind person to apologize. He obviously cared about you or you likely wouldn’t of even got that. Take his words literal. Don’t try to read into it. In my experience guys say what they mean. It is rarely a miscommunication.
I am going through a similar situation. My ex contacted me after 5 months. He texted and asked for me to meet him in person. I could tell his apology came from his heart because he struggled to get out the words. He never spoke about moving on, but after we talked about normal every day stuff. An hour after leaving I received a text letting me know that I could text him if I wanted to see a movie with him sometime. Interestingly here, my situation has left more to interpret. I still choose to interpret that he is moving on unless he decides to say the words.

Your ex is not going to want back a needy woman that appears desperate and lacks confidence. Work on your self, go to the gym, go out with friends, and just learn what you use to love before he entered your life. The great part about this…If at some point he does come back you will be strong enough to make the right decision. And it just might be not to be with him.

Good luck to you.

Times and space has forced him to recognize HIS role in things and that not everything was your fault. He only came back around to apologize and make himself feel better. Now he can be off the hook in his mind. He doesn’t sound like he has any interest in getting back together or even being friends. He’s probably going to fade back out.