Why didn't he get me anything for our 1 year anniversary

Just tell him sweetly, awe….babe, I really like getting cards or a little something on our anniversary, I feel it so so romantic. Don’t criticize him just tell him what you like. What you like he might not feel is important, it’s whether he knows you like it and complies to make you happy that is important.

Don’t assume he knows what makes you happy, just tell him sweetly and flirtatiously, and give him a little chill up his spine so he is sure to get you to your happy place with card in hand.

As for the ex-girfriend, you don’t know if he bought a card for her b/c it was his idea, or because she told him to, asked him to, or they decided on gift giving prior. YOu are assuming a lot instead of communicating your wants and needs, just remember communicate in a non-critical way.

Good luck :)

Megan,

hey the ladies are right guys don’t really care or remember that stuff. My bf told me he doesn’t give much thought to it. I had told him to me birthdays are very important to me and he just simply told me to please remind him and keep on him and he will try and do his best. lol I never told him how HE doesn’t do anything I told him how it was important to me and why. Now I haven’t had my birthday yet but it is a month away and I keep letting him know “hehe my birthday is coming Im excited” and he will ask “oh yea when is it again haha just kidding I know”
Now I don’t expect anything from him just the recognition like a happy birthday
Try not to expect anything but try and explain why it is important to you not what he has done wrong.

I did remind him and he knew it was our anniversary because he text me saying happy anniversary I love u and glad I’m with u. So it’s not like he forgot about it. Yeah I probably am being a little nagging about it. But it’s not like I’m telling him to go spend 100 bucks on me. If he would of got me a 2 dollar card and wrote me something sweet I would be happy with that. And for me whining about him spending that much and not buying me anything is because he will complain he doesn’t have money but yet when he wants something he finds a way for it. I’ve asked him to buy me cheap small things but it seems like I’m asking him to spend a million dollars on me

Some men are just crap at cards!

I didn’t even get one on my birthday, but I did get a lovely pair of boots from him.

Our anniversary and valentines day are two days apart. I got him cards for both but still had nothing back. Well, nice words in a text but that was all.

His brother told him off, and my fella said ‘but she hates cards’ and looked at me and questioned that. I said to him that I’d told him I hate xmas cards and refuse to send any but I do like a valentines card.

But I wasn’t funny with him. I may not have had a card on the anniversary but he did come and see me and we we had a meal and a drink together. That meant more really that he did put time in.

I may not send any cards to him next year though. Just to see if he notices! Lol!

Hi teena.

Why didn’t you immediately walk over to the jewelry store and pick out the diamonds that you wanted (should be same price as the gun)?

I wanted him to pick them out…I would have picked a ring and I’m not sure he’s ready for that. Now I’m not sure I want them…this isn’t the first ‘holiday’ that I’ve gotten nothing but gave something.

That’s why I didn’t pick something out…I wanted him to get something, anything! I cook his favorite meals every night. I offer to cuddle with him every night. I will not pressure him. However, I pampe and dote on him from the minute I get home until I go to bed, which I believe is coming to an end. :-\ :-( he works hard and I tell him all the time that he is appreciated and loved.

Oh ladies, I feel for you dealing with this so early in a relationship, I mean I deal with this after almost 11 years of marriage and he forgot our ten year anniversary, I just don’t care anymore, please think if you will be ok with this for years to come, hugs!

Always keep this in mind…never ACT like a wife until you are one! He has zero incentive to marry you because he essentially has a wife without having to go through the formalities—like they say “why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free.”

I suggest you get the book “Codependent no more…by Melody Beatty as it will help you to learn how not to overcompensate in relationships. You need to change you first before and hopefully the dynamic will change thereafter :-)

In villages in India, no one knows their date of birth. so is there no love there? in villages, there is no bar, pub, discos, fancy restaurants, so again is there no love? no commitment? no couple who is happy? Dates or birthday wishes dont count for love. its a feeling of the heart. u will know it without his saying it when it happens.

I think men in general aren’t good at anniversaries. It means much more to the women. And you said he took you out to dinner and drinks but you’re still hung up on a stupid card? I’m terrible at buying cards and I rarely give them!!

I got upset last fall when my birthday rolled around and my boyfriend sent me some flowers. That was it. I mean they were gorgeous, but because it was in the middle of the week I figured he’d still take me out to dinner or something to celebrate that weekend. But he never brought it up again. So my feelings were hurt and I was being kind of pouty about it. But then I remembered that I wasn’t going to be able to see him on my birthday because he was heading out of town for a job. And I told him how much it would mean for him to come give me a birthday kiss and hug before he left. So he actually drove 2 hours round trip just to spend 30 minutes with me before he left on a 10 hour drive for work. So my point is men show love in different ways. Not all guys buy cards and presents. But they show you through other actions and in spending time with you and making you feel loved. If he is doing other things to show he cares, then forget about a stupid card!! And certainly don’t bring up some card you found from an ex as proof that he doesn’t care! And never ever again make him buy you something because he’s spending HIS money on things he wants. It’s his money to do what he wants.

If something is important to you, you should not hide it. He did send you a text about your anniversary, so this is already a good thing, he did not ignore or forget it. And I disagree that men forget such things, in my experience, they always remember when they care about a woman, genuinely care. There are exceptions, of course, like people who never remember anyone’s birthdays including their own, but this is not the rule. Most people remember important dates. Your guy did remember and he did send you his congrats. Now you need to make him understand just how important it is to you that he buys you presents. Do not let it slide because later on you will always be unhappy. You need to make him understand that this “sh*t” matters to you. Be really sad about it and tell him how disappointed you are but without being aggressive. Talk about it and say how other women get presents and you feel left out..or something like that but make sure he knows what you like and how you like it, and next time, if he does not buy you something (but I think he will), you can stop talking to him for a few days. I find that most guys turn into hopeless romantic as soon as they fall in love. And they WANT to buy you gifts. So if he didn’t it is because he thought he could get away without buying it. Don’t let him. Show him how important it is to you, and he will take care of it next time. He did buy you a $65 sweatpants when you complained, didn’t he?

With men, if you don’t show them what is important to you, they MIGHT not give it to you. Notice how they always tell you what THEY like and not and what’s important to them. Do you ever have to guess what he likes to eat? activities to do? type of clothing to wear? etc etc..men always make sure we KNOW… lol..the difference is that when you don’t give them something and it is not terribly important to them, they don’t fret about it whereas we, women, first we try to be “nice” and not be selfish and pretend gifts are not important to us but then we get upset when we don’t get them. It is best to be straightforward – with yourself and with your guy.