Why do engaged people cheat?

Are we talking about someone who is engaged and actually planning a wedding or just engaged? Some people stay engaged for years and have the same dynamic as a married couple. Others get engaged but never really plan to get married. They’re just boyfriend/girlfriend. If they’re actively planning a wedding and he cheats, I see that as one of the lowest things a man can do. Like cheating when the wife is pregnant.

Selfishness, lack of empathy, little/no integrity, are qualities of some of the worst kinds of people who cheat.

Then there are those who cheat because they feel so unloved, unappreciated, ignored, and invisible. But at the end of the day, cheating is ALWAYS a choice.

You can choose to leave or you can choose deceit.

I have known people in serious relationships/married who cheated (they were in the second camp of feeling consistently taken for granted and needing attention/affection)… every single one ended in disaster.

Someone like the guy you are talking about here, however, is the epitome of useless douchebag. He cheats because he can’t/won’t be faithful to anyone and all that matters are his selfish, thoughtless desires. He’s a scumbag whose only concerns are what makes him happy.

Some people get off on the excitement of the idea of getting caught. But anyone who is a serial cheater has some major issues, and is a serious mess.

If you do receive a wedding invitation, I would immediately decline. Allowing toxic people in our lives (or removing/avoiding them) is also a choice.

Staying far away from these types is something I can’t recommend strongly enough.

I know guys find it hard to talk to bro’s in an honest way. But hasnt your bf asked him why he keeps on planning the wedding and if he is in love with that other girl? Maybe he got confused, has feelings for the new girl but doesnt have the heart to break up the engagemenf? Your bf could actially help him questioning his behaviour and prevent a marriage that is doomed from happening

The engaged men cheat because they think they should have a last fling before they’re locked down with that one person the rest of their lives.

Maybe you can ask your boyfriend to have a talk with that guy or if he sees “the other woman” again, he should casually mention the guy is engaged. Maybe the other woman doesn’t know so it’s not her fault if she doesn’t know.

There are tons of articles online about this, varies by couple and individual,

Emma. You admit your mom is psychotic. Maybe you are too? Because you contradict yourself all over the place. You said you had a bf or some guy you loved in addition to your husband? Makes sense b abuse your advice is so out there at times it does sound psychotic. And I bet you are your moms girl.

I know men who adore their wives and children and only cheat because they want NSA sex. Either they’re not getting any at home at all, or they are bored with the routine and want some variety. They wouldn’t leave their wives in a million years. And I doubt the women they are using for sex know it. Or hell, maybe they do and that’s OK with them. I don’t know.

One man I know has been sleeping with other women casually for almost 20 years because his wife is chronically depressed and hates to be touched and he gets zero sex at home. I know this is true because I know his wife and she admits this is the case. She thinks he is this saint who is incredibly respectful of her. Wrong. I found out what he does by accident. I’ve never said a word and I wouldn’t. They’ve been married almost 40 years. If she found out, I think she’d be very hurt but I don’t think they’d split up.

Engaged men. Well, I think it’s because they have something to prove about their manhood or monogamy scares them. My hairdresser from some years ago got married and found out on the honeymoon he’d been sleeping with someone else for 6 months before they had this big lavish wedding. She left immediately. He said but she doesn’t mean a thing to me, I love you and I married you. And she said, that’s too bad that you are losing me over nothing, it would have been better if you at least had feelings for her, because I don’t want you any more and now there’s no chance she will either. And she cut him off and never spoke directly to him again, her lawyer handled everything. She got an annulment on the grounds of fraud.

Who knows. I feel sorry for the bride. I hope someone tells her, but I’ve gotta say sometimes women don’t take too kindly to that. I’d want to know, but I’m surprised at the number of women who wouldn’t not and would shoot the messenger.

This is about so much more than the physical act committed in cheating. First, this poor girl is also exposed to STD’s/STI’s, and all the unnecessary/unneeded drama that come with the deception.

A cheater takes away their S.O.’s ability to choose, when they make a unilateral decision to step outside of the relationship, without agreement or permission.

You not only take away someone’s choice, you steal their trust, intimacy, faith, and peace. And you make it hard to trust in general. When the person who “supposedly” loves you the most, or as one of the most important people in your life cheats, it breaks something. Something that cannot always be repaired.

That is the biggest consequence of cheating. Trust and truth are destroyed, and replaced with doubt, cynicism, mistrust, and pain.

There are couples who work through it, but in those cases, the cheater gives up almost all rights to privacy, because full transparency is mandatory to even consider an attempt at rebuilding trust. It’s much harder than winning someone over to begin with, because deceit has to be overcome, which isn’t easy. Doubt stays in the mind of the one cheated on for a long time.

I am of the mind that if you cheat on me, I’m done. As in… gone so fast it’s as if I never existed. Life is too short and difficult without trust.

Not everyone cheats, I want someone who takes it seriously when they make a promise/vow. If you can cheat once, chances are high you will do it again.

Yes, people make mistakes sometimes, ones they truly regret. So you can forgive, but it doesn’t mean you have to stay.

For me to stay in a relationship in a situation like that, a guy would have to bust his hump earning back my trust, and it’s such hard work. Too hard for most. Some things can NEVER be taken back- just like words, once said, can’t be unsaid.

I admire the relationships where something like this happens and two people truly love each other SO MUCH, they commit to working it out together, but only when the effort is serious and honest and the cheater EARNS trust back. And that is something that has to be re-earned every single day.

I do not admire or respect people who don’t have enough self-esteem to walk away from a bad seed, though, because that is a different story altogether.

I do pity and feel sorry for them, because that is a version of hell I never want to live .

And I still say neither of you HAVE to go to this wedding. I don’t know why people think they have no choice. It’s ridiculous. The wedding is a sham. Why waste a day and money on a gift? Your BF doesn’t have to say why, just that you can’t make it.

I politely decline invitations all the time. You are allowed to set YOUR OWN boundaries. So if he wants to go, fine. If not, no one is putting a gun to either of your heads.

Just sayin.

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