Why do men look at their girl's facial expressions during sex?

Hmm you’re questioning why your man is still taken by you? Dont think so little of yourself.

And he’s looking at your face to see if you’re enjoying it. He maybe needs some reassurance that you are. Don’t you look at him to see that he is too? This is normal. You need to work on feeling more confident in yourself. Seeing that both parties are enjoying can enhance the experience! But takes you being comfortable in your own skin.

men flirt to get the girl and sex. after they have all the sex they wants, the flirts SHOULD dries out right? there no reasons for him to keep flirting with me (we have sex many many times already)
yet he still find himself flirting wtih me, that is strange to me.

relationship is good so far, he seems to be committed.
we both in our late twenties already, we’re poor but we both are Financial independent with our own jobs.

Out of his own willing, he did buy matching band rings, he said the rings to show his ‘committment’. and he wear the ring 24/7
So he already put a ring on his own finger, telling everybody that he’s taken.

Eventhough he didn’t officially said the “would u married me” proposal words
He did say that he poor, and right now he doesn’t have enough money for a house, or a big wedding, or a nice ring for me. (which I repeatedly told him, I don’t mind any of those stuff)

So if I don’t mind all that, he said we go tomorrow morning to register for marriage liscense.
He said it many times before, I just didn’t take it as a “propose”, does it sound like a “propose” to anyone here?
Or he just throw the ball at me, and let me be the one to decide when I am ready to married? He probably just running away from responsibility?

I know where you are coming from. I had abuse in my background and with previous boyfriends. With my current he is very tender and the chemistry is great. He always looks at my face, stares into my eyes etc. Like you I didn’t understand it at first and found it uncomfortable. I asked him once and he said “because youre beautiful where else would I look”. I think when you have been abused or not had a man truely love you its confusing but if you can let yourself go and believe he is doing it because he thinks youre amazing then it becomes an amazing thing. It sounds like you have a good man there so just try and relax.

Alot of people say I should get ‘couseling/therapist’ regarding to my emotionally abuse childhood past.
But we are a poor couple live in the ghetto.
If you know what ghetto mean. Ghetto is a bad area, Cheap Rent neighborhood for people who make on the ‘lower income’ side of the society.

We both have our own jobs though, so we fine with money, But we far from rich.
I just didn’t think of couseling before ,due to our sex life is fine, he still enjoying it.
Sex to him is completely pleasure, but sex to me can be uncomfortable, but I still give him sex whenever he initiate. So he happy, lol

Any opinions my post above regarding to his matching band rings, do you take that as a proposal? i’m confuse myself, I don’t know what he really wants inside his head.

Hi Presence.

It sounds like a ‘promise ring’ which use to be a popular way of saying “I’m not in a position to marry you at the moment, but want you to know that’s my plan for us so please accept this until I’m able to carry out the actual plan of marrying you.”!

Is he only seeing you? I would however define a time frame so if he doesn’t step up and marry you, say within say a year, then you will walk away. Some men can string a woman along this way for YEARS, if SHE ALLOWS IT. So the power is really in your hands, whereas if he doesn’t marry you within the time frame you set, then you need to follow through and walk away if he doesn’t meet it.

Poor people get married all the time, so if the both of you aren’t SAVING and working towards that goal, then I would definitely start asking the hard questions as to a specific time line. If he agrees to a ‘time line’ (one year), then I would suggest opening up a joint savings account and start putting in money for that purpose only. Need to make it very clear in writing as to the purpose of the ‘joint account’ so to protect yourselves legally in the event you and/or he decides not to marry so the money you each put in individually (need to document and record each deposit) can be distributed back to the each of you in full.

Well I am a girl in his own hood, so he dating a girl in his own neighborhood. His apartment is just few minutes walking away from me.
I find it very AWKWARD that I am dating a guy in such a close distant, I find it to be some kind of “TABOO” or “SIN” or osmething. Don’t you think so too?

We are in a committed relationship. Eversince his hard 6 months chase after me ,we been together for 1 year already. And he make it clear it is exclusive, and we committed, and monogamous.

I didn’t think he was serious about the matching rings, until I see the type of rings he bought, the one in my avatar.
I don’t think promise ring would look something like this, maybe we in the ghetto is different, lol

He wearing this ring on his own left hand finger , everybody will misunderstand that he married.

He said if I don’t mind he poor, we go tomorrow morning to register for marriage liscense.
I don’t know should I test him and see IF he really going take me to register for marriage.

Hi Presence, why don’t u have faith in this man?? As far as I know men won’t do this unless they are serious. I don’t think it will work if u have no faith at all. I have friends like u whose bfs have show major commitment but they still doubt and afraid of being taken advantage of. Kind of funny.

That’s a smart rational approach! Take some time to work on you, and when your ready discuss it with him :-)

A man who really loves a woman will stick around…I know, I made mine wait 2.5 years :-)

None of us here are licensed therapists so we can’t answer that question for you. There may be some charitable agencies near you who can provide you some help, or at a minimum, find some self-help books online that aren’t very expensive but can help you with your low self-esteem or how to overcome emotional abuse. I wish I could provide more assistance in this regard, sorry.

I’m sure there are some forums or support groups/agencies available in your area that’s suited to help you with those issues. We can only help in the “relationship” department. I truly hope you get the help you seek because once you work your childhood issues out, it will provide more clarity as to what decisions you need to make in the relationship. I know you’re struggling with this, and highly recommend you seek out the proper professionals/people who are better equipped to help you in this area. Good luck.