Why do men that have stopped talking to me still watch my ig stories?

Why are you allowing these guys access to your social media?

raven is right. and besides how does it matter? they dont want to get in touch with you or they wld have sent a DM. dont bother. but if you cant ignore, than remove them from your list of followers.

Here’s the answer and sorry you’re getting a lot of rude answers from delusional people who think that people turn feelings off in a click.

I know why.

These people are emotionally immature. They didn’t want to flat out say, “I’m not interested in you right now,” but they still are a little bit. Essentially, they see that you are a person of high value who they could seriously consider investing in BUT you also show red flags which keep them away. And also, they are emotionally immature and are probably not ready for a relationship.

They are watching what you do because they want to see if the red flags you displayed will go away, or if something good happens in your life it will be enough to sway them to reach out. E.g. you win the lottery, you get your dream job, you move out to a big city, your life looks fun, now they might slide back into your DMS because you are interesting and attractive.

So they are attracted to you but not ENOUGH. They have a feeling you might become more attractive or glow up your life, and if you do, and the timing is right, they’ll see if they can slide back in. Essentially, you’re still an “option” for them in their mind.

But if they flat out rejected you, then you would just move on and find someone else. But in their mind, if they just disappear and reappear when they think they’re ready/ it’s a good time, then they think ghosting makes more sense.

Another thing, these men are again, IMMATURE. Most mature men and people do not think like this. They are childish still.

You also aren’t the only option they are considering, they have a few on the table, but again, FIND BETTER. These people are too immature for you, and additionally, they might not be willing to offer you what you need.

I’ll give you an example, some immature 27 year old guy stood me up, and I got upset at him and he got angry at me for it. So, me getting overly angry was a red flag for him, he also regarded me as clingy, but he was really attracted to me and my personality, so he kept watching my stories, and he kept me as one of his, “options”.

Just move on from them, these immature guys are niave to assume they can just come back into your life when you’re popping off.

You know that stereotype of when someone becomes famous or wins the lottery and they start hearing back from people from their past? This is a prime example of that. They are waiting for you to be “good enough” for them, while they, on the other hand, do little to no work on themselves. They are in for a rude awakening very soon, they have unrealistically high standards and expectations that they will NEVER find. So don’t stress, take it as a compliment, but yeah roll your eyes, and don’t take these people back, they are immature, and they won’t see their own faults anytime soon. If one magically does then great, but that would take a miracle. Ghosters and people who don’t give closure don’t deserve your time. I would rather give someone who gave me closure and explained why they ended things a second chance over someone who just disappeared and reappeared. They are acting cowardly. Do you really want a man-child?

I have experienced that, too. I blocked them. No need to keep seeing their name pop up. They aren’t part of my life, so there is no need to allow them a window into it.

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