Why do men you date talk about pretty girls?

I asked a male friend of mind about this a while back and he told me that it sometimes is because the man wants to test the woman’s level of jealously. A lot of men don’t like jealous and possessive women, vice versa, and so they want to see up front how you react to certain provocations.

They could also just want to see how confident you are. Men like strong and confident women.

I used to be bothered by this same thing, but I became a lot more confident, secure with myself and mature over the years and now I just smile and agree. My current boyfriend used to do this in the very beginning, but then when I started to point out women I even found beautiful and he realized his comments didn’t get any reaction out of me, it stopped.

Could be because they don’t know better and don’t think that bothers us, could be because they want to get a reaction and see how much they can get away with, some are just insensitive jerks.

What to do? Whenever a guy talks about a pretty girl that’s in the room don’t make a fuss and move the conversation in another direction. He has to know it’s not a topic you want to talk about.

I know guys that will comment on the hotness of a movie star for example and I acknowledge her level of hotness and even point at another hottie and then change the subject or start talking about movies she’s been on and then mention some hot guy in that movie lol … The conversation keeps flowing naturally into another subject.

Nobody’s hurt during and none acts like a pshycho.

LOL, my test to see whether or not a guy is right for me is whether or not he gives me ridiculous tests to find out how I react when provoked.

I’m a confident woman, but I think it is disrespectful for a man to talk about how attractive someone else is in front of his partner. Of course it could be fine in the right context (say, for example, you are discussing Donald Trump’s stupid comment that Heidi Klum is no longer a 10), but I think that if a guy is just sitting there pointing out attractive women, it is gross. I’m not saying I expect my boyfriend won’t notice attractive women. I notice attractive men, too! But we don’t discuss them together.

The two men I’ve known who frequently talked about other women also had additional bad habits. One (a former roommate, not a boyfriend) would make awful sexist remarks and cheated on his girlfriend. Another (a boyfriend, unfortunately) had massive self esteem issues and constantly tried to find a way to gain a mental/emotional advantage over me. Comments about other women went hand-in-hand with insults about me. But that’s just my experience.

Jerks like to play and test women all the time but it’s how you react to those tests what matters. I once went out with the most disrespectful guy I’ve ever known, if you look up for douchebag in a dictionary his picture will be there lol

He asked me to hang out at this very popular club in my town, I said yes and I arrived there, he hanged out with me and his friend for like 5 minutes and then went on to talk to the girl bar tender, he just left me there standing and I started moving around.

We met about two hours after and he asked me to dance and started groping me, something I don’t like because I think is really rude specially when you just met. I excused myself and went home.

Next morning he was texting me like nothing ever happened lol … He asked me to go out and I said I didn’t think we should, that I was not interested in him anymore.

Two months later he sent me a message on the website we met, asking me to hang out and then I let him know that was not possible, he asked why. I told him he was the most disrespectful man I had ever known and if he didn’t realized that he was fooling himself. Never heard of him again. lol

The thing is, I was smart enough to tell him to go to hell but there are many women that are just too nice and let them get away with it.

On the other hand, we are always testing people and their boundaries, the difference is that it’s not premeditated, it’s a natural thing to do and we learned since a very early age.

I reconnected with a guy that had a crush on me in high school through p.o.f. we hung out.. which I was not thinking was a date. He didn’t take that as an option. We have now gone on 6 dates in 3 weeks. He’s cooked been sweet.. I have mentioned he notices pretty girls but when I said it bothered me . He stopped. But anyways.. he seems to be interested. And I’m trying to be cool take it slow but I did ask about dating others he said he’s not. Soooo why do I still see that he is on p.o.f? He texted me tonight while it says he is on it!? I don’t want to seem jealous do I won’t bring it up. Bit it makes me sad. And while we are not exclusive I feel like hi being on that shows he doesn’t take this serious.