Why do they go quiet once they "have you"

Well I think any guy that talks for an hour on the phone is doing well tbh. How much
More do u need. I take it he has a job ? X

Contact tends to get less after a few weeks because the intensity of the initial conversations just can’t be sustained in the longer term. Sooner or later, real life intrudes and people have to take care of things like work, groceries, housework, etc and just don’t have the time to spend all day every day texting and talking. Once they are secure that they like you and the feeling is mutual people (not just guys, seen a few women make the same comment) get back to taking care of other business they have in their life. It doesn’t mean they are taking things for granted, there are other red flags for that, just means that at that specific moment of the day they have a different priority. As long as the rest of the relationship is good I wouldn’t worry about it.

BTW, there are many people who would consider an hours phonecall more than adequate contact for the day (I’m one of them).

If you just started dating him always assume that they are talking to others… SO he is probably entertaining the other… thats why you should have other friends as well… dont be overly concerned about it or he might just be busy

Don’t obsess with this. Relax or you’re going to start being needy and he’ll run away. Don’t call him and do all the talking, that’s his job at this point. Go take a long walk, exercise, go out with friends, Netflix binge and have fun on your own because you need to stop over analyzing.

Hi Rach.

He’s not in love with you yet. This is just lust/infatuation stage as it takes more time for the true romantic love to fully develop. These intense fast burning relationships usually die out pretty quick because its too hard to maintain that type of intensity for too long…the way your acting is a perfect example of why they end. I would PULL BACK, check yourself and continue to listen and OBSERVE his actions. Until you’ve surpassed the 6th month mark, its too early to know if your compatible in the ways you need as a long-term couple.

We all wear masks that we present to the world but eventually those parts of us that we keep hidden will begin reveal themselves to us, and until we can strip it off and see the “real them” then your diving into a very shallow pool. Until you reach the deep end (over a period of several months) you cannot know if your compatible in the way a couple needs to be to feel loved, safe and secure with each other.

Relax, take a breath and above-all stop being so needy and clingy.

Haha – you’re gonna burn yourself out if you keep doing this all the time

Hello, i met a man online about 5 months ago. We never talked about a relationship because we were both happy with the friends with benifits situation. I ending up catching feelings and told him i wanted more. He said we could try the relationship thing. It was good for about 3weeks. We never really talked on the phone it was mainly texting. So one morning i sent him a text and he said goodmorning but it was really short. I then texted him and asked him to call me no call. I called him later that night no answer. The next morning i still hadnt heard from him so here is were i think i messed up. I texted him told him i changed my number it will be in effect at midnight. If i dont hear from you remember you will always have a place in my heart. Then he texts and says what that mean etc etc. Claims he didnt get call or text and for me to call him when i wanna talk. So i called with new number and every since then he has been distance no contact etc. Did i overreact? Was this all my fault? Please help

Thank you mari for responding. I usually dont express my feelings but i caught them with this relationship. Lesson will learned. Never again will i approach a man with more after i given basically my all. Thank you. Blessings

Your right patsyshirt. I just felt i needed to speak on my feelings cause i didnt wanna get deeper in the relationship not knowing if he liked me in that way. He did say when i presented my feelings i asked him how he felt he said good he wasnt into or seeing anyone else that he just wanted to see ware things were gonna go with us first but i felt a need to cause again id rather know now then later on his feelings. Everything totally changed after i spoke up. It was awkward..but i guess time heals all wounds.Im still hopeing he calls i dont no if thats good or bad..but im healing. Thank you. Blessings