Why do we tend to enter in this vicious circle?

It’s insecurity, and natural for someone who already feels insecure to do this. And a little bit related to a fear of abandonment. The good news is, the way to stop doing it is focus on yourself and building up your self-esteem so no man, or other woman, can define you. And once you feel good enough about yourself, you know you can survive if something goes wrong in the relationship, even if it ends, so the fears ease up as well. Women who have a solid relationship with themselves are the ones who don’t care about doing this.

If it’s intentional behavior, that the man says it on purpose to put you down or get a certain type of reaction from you, then he’s manipulative and should be left behind. Some people, both men and women, do use this as an emotional weapon (either called triangulation or negging depending on how it’s done), and they are bad news.

@madame I know exactly they want a reaction, I have seen videos of how to be unbothered and I started to put them into practice and boy it feels good not to react towards anything this men wantsto react to, it’s like he bombards me with things that he believes will bother me , and that in the past it did and now I just could care less, I could tell this BOTHERS HIM! That’s how I figure that he did this on purpose.

He loves to mention to a family member how he has a female friend who lives overseas, which is super smart, had a super job, and is gorgeous, to my sincere point of view this seems perhaps disrespectful to me, but he does it like it don’t matter, so I just act like I don’t give a damn either.

So pittyful to do this!