Why does he take so long to reply?

First of all, hanging out with a guy youve only known for 2 weeks 5 times is a lot! Not saying that’s a bad thing, just saying that’s more than most people do after first meeting someone.

You have only known him for a few weeks though, so bring your expectations of him down a bit. Y’all have hung out a bunch for only 2 weeks, but don’t forget that not even a month ago he was a total stranger to you. He could very easily still be meeting other girls off Tinder as well. So just don’t put all your eggs in one basket quite yet. You should keep dating around!

Also, lay off the texts. If he’s not texting you back you shouldn’t then be snapchatting him as well. But if you see that he’s opening your Snaps and not responding then that just goes to show you he’s ignoring your text for the time being. Why? because he doesn’t care that much or figures he can just get back to you when he feels like it because you’re always available. (Not saying you ARE, but in his mind that’s how he sees it because youre the one always reaching out to him!). Back off and make him wonder where you are. Don’t text him at all. If you don’t hear from him for a week, then forget it.

Just to offer a different view… he could just be busy? I know you said you’ve seen that he’s opened your snapchats, but that doesn’t mean he necessarily has the time to respond at that moment. It usually takes my boyfriend a few hours to respond when I text him, but I know it’s just because he’s busy at work or he’s with his family and can’t respond right away. So I wouldn’t say that this is a big deal, because like Lane said, if he’s asking you out on dates a lot then he’s interested.

Well, from what you’ve said here you are the one to suggest hanging out, you are the one always texting him, and he texts back hours later.

Part of the problem may be that you’re not giving him a chance. You’re jumping the gun and suggesting hangout and texting him before he can get to it himself. It’s hard to gauge his level of interest since you’re making everything easy for him.

He may just be a lazy guy. Or you just may be doing everything before he has a chance.

I would back off a bit and maybe catch up with some friends and give him a chance to reach out. In my opinion, you’re being too eager and available. There needs to be a bit of tension created in the beginning. He has to feel that he needs to lock you down before another guy discovers you. If he thinks you’re just waiting around for him, then he will not be in any hurry to make you his girlfriend and instead will take his time shopping around on Tinder.

I have the same issue with my date. He has his own company and he is the boss. At the beginning of our dating he already described to me how his typical week goes, he seems to have already a set of activities lined up and that’s the way it’s gonna be, maybe not even a date will change that i guess. On weekends he spends the whole day with his family(parents,siblings,kids,grandkids). He also has mentioned to me his schedules, Mondays is his busiest work day, Friday nights hanging out with guy friendly and having drinks at home while watching hockey. Saturdays is family day or cleaning up his place, doing laundry, gardening(which is one of his passions), Sundays he goes to church with his family, and again spends time with them. During a weekday when he is in his office he usually responds 2-3hours, on probably very busy days he wud respond at the end of an 8hour work shift. If he still cudn’t reply becuz after work he goes home, cooks supper and takes care of his two dogs, he wud reply at bedtime. In all of this,he replies by telling me how his day went, what he has been doing, etc. We have known each other for two months now and the first month we went out on a date every week, and even spent a long weekend out of town, but on the second month he got very busy with work and family that we have seen each other only once,but we communicate by texts and email. I have almost have dropped him and had stopped talking to him for a week because i feel i’m not his priority. But after a week of my drama i emailed him back telling him about my feelings. He reponded with a very nice email also expressing his deep attraction towards me but saying that he wants to take things slowly. I realize how patient he is with me that even after I said I want to be out of the relationship, he still responded with kind words when i started to talk to him again. He has all the qualities i am looking for in a partner except for the texting part that makes me frustrated. But then if i decide i want out, it makes me sad and missing him. So now i decided i shud just undersrand him more and get used to his texting style. After all, he wud reply no matter what, at least at the end of the day. Other men i’ve chatted with online…nothing compares to the qualities i found in him. Also i have now appreciated the way he is a hard worker and as a family man, the reason why he doesn’t have time to text back right away.
Maybe he wants to reply at a time when he doesn’t have any distraction anymore and have his focus on me, maybe he wants to reply when he cud be in a more sensible conversation, than a simple SMS. There are other men who wud reply to me right away, some of them I haven’t even met yet. But makes me think, does this guy have nothing better to do than sit around with his phone and waiting for my text? I ask myself,do i really want that kind of man or do i want a hard working man who focuses on his work, accomplishes his goals, and then at the end of the day makes time for me? I may not be his priority right now becuz we are not official yet but if we do become official i know he will be a good partner. So i am hanging in there showing him i care and that i understand his situation and i just try my best to be more patient as he is patient with me. The nice thing is he is still making plans to go out with me to date, so that means he is still interested.

Shannon, you could be right. But i look at the brighter side which is altho we don’t see each other much, everytime we meet is always a great night. Also considering both our difficult situations, our scheds don’t match, i work everyday and the days that he is free to see me, i can’t becuz it is my night shift. Also we both live with and taking care of teens which makes it impossible to have sleepovers, his 17yo granddaughter lives with him and i have my 17yo daughter. Also considering his age which is 58, he is kinda not into texting(maybe). The way he expressed his desire and attraction to me in an email has given me much hope to wait. I have tried not to put all my eggs in one basket by chatting again with other men but i have not found the qualities i look for which is i found in him, so i thought i will just wait in him. It’s a very difficult situation, also the fact that he is going thru a divorce procedures, one reason why he is not rushing into a new relationship yet. I may not fit in his schedule right now, because we are not official but he surely is still interested in knowing me more or else he would have dropped me too when i already dropped him, but the fact that he is still there responding to me means a lot. I have had conversations with another men where i got piss off and he responds piss off too and saying “fine”. But my date i sounded piss off and he did not retaliate, he just did not respond at all. But when i cooled down and messaged him again he messaged me back calmly, never mentioned about it. So now we are talking again and have a date this coming Tuesday. I am not sure how long can i handle this situation but i guess as long as i have not found anyone yet comparable to the qualities i liked in him, then i might just as well hang on to him. He is perfect for me😉😊